Last week, the newly svelte Kirstie Alley told “People” magazine she lost 100 lbs. because, “I didn't like the way I looked, and I didn't want to have fat sex!”
Now that the former Jenny Craig spokeswoman is thin again, she announced she’s finally ready for love.
But while she looks great on the outside, her comments call into question what’s going on inside. It seems Alley is missing out on a key ingredient in her diet regimen—being sexy has everything to do with how you feel about yourself.
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“Sex is so healthy for women. It helps with our cardiac and immune systems, it helps with our blood pressure, our respiration, it helps us be less depressed and our overall quality of life goes up when we’re having healthy sex,” notes psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini, LEC, who counsels people who struggle with food addiction.
The ladies of “The View” were quick to contradict Alley when they recently discussed the comments. Sherri Shepard wasn’t shy about saying, "I got some big girlfriends, [who weigh like] 250. They are doing it well, let me tell you!" And Whoopi Goldberg added, “There are a lot of skinny women who hate their bodies, so I don't think it's fat sex or skinny sex, you're either having good sex or you ain't."
Rapini has found that, “Women’s sexuality is very tied into their body image.” She also pointed out that some women hide behind their weight as an excuse to avoid physical contact and then place the blame on their partners. Rapini explains their reasoning saying, “‘[Men] don’t like me because I’m fat.’ But it’s much harder if you’re a normal weight and then you get rejected because they don’t like you because of you, and that’s a harder thing to fix.”
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