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We’ve been married for ten years and we have great sex.  He says he would like to experience his life’s fantacy to be with two women, one of them is me.  I get to choose the other woman and set the rules.  Should I grant him this fantacy? What do you think?

 
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I think why not as long as you both set strict ground rules before u introduce the woman and you both have no jealousy issues that could create problems during and after the “event”” it could be a kinky way to make your marriage even stronger and fullfilling!

 
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I think that this is outrageous. I dated someone who was into that and I have a hard time believing that anyone would require something like this out of their partner, that they love them. If he feels the need to exchange you with another woman, then he clearly doesn’t love you.

 
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Some people are just into that. I think it’s great that he trusts you with this fantasy, and he is showing he loves you by letting you control everything. if he didn’t love you this much, he would just go out and have a threesome without telling you about it, but he cares about you and wants you to know and be a part of it. I say set strict rules, and as long as you personally would be willing to do it, go for it.

 
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Umm there’s no “strict rules” when it comes to threesomes.. I mean come on.. That’s just stupid your just asking for trouble.. But that’s just my personal feeling.. To each is own..

 
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Ohhhhh boy! I actually have a friend who was in the same situation. She is now divorced and struggling with two kids. A threesome is never a good idea. Do you actually know anyone that is in a commited relationship that has been successful at pulling this off? Yeah…me either.

 
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My boyfriend suggested it once and I said I have the same fantasy with two men and it was the end of the story :D

 
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REALLY? ! Not a good idea.  It might be the end of your marriage if you go through with it.  What person you know that is still married and pulling threesomes?  Thats just dumb.  But, whatever floats your boat,  its just my opinion

 
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I should mention that this is the second marriage for both me and my husband and our children are grown.  Other women try and get his attention all the time. .I love my husband with all my heart and he loves me and I trust him. . If I go through with his fantacy then I get to have my fantacy, maybe new jewelry or my dream vacation or something.  I don’t want  two men.  The whole thing of the matter is that in my husbands fantacy he must be  a gentlemen and make sure that I am happy and satisfied first.  I trust that he will do  just that.

 
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i waould be careful he might not want to do it only once but if u r ok with the 3ome happening more often then once go for it girl

 
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you should not do it because is this man really loves u he wont share you with no one !!! and im telling u this because i told my bf the same thing about having a threesome and this was his answer. Embarassed

 
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Well hun you sound as if you just about made up your mind. Do what you will. My only question is if you have different morals and believe that you should be the only woman he is pleasing sexually don’t compromise your dignity for the sake of making a man happy. Believe me it won’t make him love you more. ~

 
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Wow! Great advice from everyone…Babzzy and Honeycould not have said it better..All I will say is “Think….Long and hard”…..This concerns me as well…You wrote…”in my husbands fantacy he must be a gentlemen and make sure that I am happy and satisfied first. I trust that he will do just that..” (I would be less concerned if you wrote..”I am sure he will do just that” but you trust he will do just that?…It sounds like (I Just hope he will do that)…Also, it is interesting..the very word ‘fantasy’ perhaps says it all..Could it be just a fantasy that this will happen and life as you know it will be the same?

Not judging or saying yes or no..Only you can answer that. Perhaps you need more time to think this through? No one else can make that decision or help you to make that decision. We can only give opinions and we have plenty..Good luck and just be content withwhatever decision you make. If you are not content..then don’t feel rushed …it simply means perhaps you are not so keen on the idea afterall, or you need some more time to think it through…THis could be what he wants now…What else will he be thinking? what next? be careful..His appetite could change..Will you be able to meet all demands ? Just (FFT) food for thought.

Be well-be safe-be careful and stay beautiful!

 

 
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That is degarding you if u dnt wanna do it i say no and if dnt wanna deal wit it he dnt love u for real

 
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Thanks to all of you, I have decided not to grant this fantacy and my husband is fine with it.  It would be a fantasy for everything to workout okay.

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