I am sorry..I wrote the first post rather late, so I have corrected the mispellings (:- Thanks
Hi 'freckleface'
That's too bad I know how that can feel, however it is impossible that you will be more petite, so if he is not that into you because of your height, then someone else less superficial will..and he is not the one. Don't forget all/most supermodels are tall..They have not had problems attracting men, so be who you are, and the right person will show up..and usually when you are not looking.
Love is a two way street so at this stage it had better be mutual . Katie and Tom Cruise were also 'vertically challenged' in the sense that one (Katie was taller) Who cared? I never realized she was that much taller. If it holds any comfort..I know at least 8 of my male friends who prefer to date tall women, so not to worry.
At the same time, it is his preference, and does not make him a bad person. You just need to find someone who will love you unconditionally. Oh, and as for help in not looking as tall. I would recommend the following: (I encourage orhes to post if you have some not on this list).
1. Mix/and match colors, use a mixture of light and dark!.Don't go out, head to toe in one monochromatic shade. Instead break up it up ! Watch out for patterns that go up and down, like stripes. If you must wear these, make sure they go across, and be very thin.
2. Try to wear mid length skirts, never extremely long, or really short! Avoid skin tight clothing that is to short or long. Wear your top over your pants, or skirt to cut down your height. Wear details along the top of the piece of clothing, like lace on the collar or visible pocket detail on jeans.
3. Wear wide belts to sort of separate your top and bottom areas, not too tight however, and opt for wider ones as narrow belts make you look even taller. .
4. Wear large pieces of jewelry, such as large hoops, or bigger studs, pearls etc., and bold, bright, spunky and fun colorful necklaces and broaches/pins, that will take awat attention from your height. Try staying away from tiny earrings like studs or small hoops, as they will look out of proportion to your body and bring focus more to your height. Wear multi-stranded pearls and necklaces..They do work to mimimize the height.
5. Carry bigger purses than small, too girly and dainty, purses or bags. A nice bold, bright, colored purse will take attention away fro m your shape.
6.Wear flats/small kitten pumps- (this does not mean you should never wear heels) never limit yourself, if you feel like wearing heels do so confidently, again it is all about unconditional love.
When all else fails...(and they wont) (:- Do what my girlfriend does..She is 5 9' and she loves heels, she wears whatever she wants such as minis, over the knee long boots or very tall heels , and to that I say..Why not? if you've got it? Flaunt it ofcourse! She even wear the bold stripes I mentioned above..She is truly proud of being tall, and she stands true(pun intended) to that. But that's her!
Do and dress according to what makes you feel comfortable. Whatever you do, try not to hidethe fact you are tall. Be proud of it and stand tall with straight shoulders. Do not slump! Most models are tall, so most designer fashions are made to look good on taller women. Having said all that however, the bottomline is that , you should not overdo(tone down) it for another person, as you will not be happy, Rather, this act alone could leave you feeling ashamed and miserable as you are not being your authentic self, and you are just not being true to yourself, which can be even worse.
I hope all this helps, and hopefully you are not 'standing around' (:- waiting for this person to change his mind. BE TRUE TO YOU-Take care, and just know and believe that all will be well.
Dr. J
