bootycall

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by uhohprettygirl

9 months ago

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I usto have a thing with this guy for awhile but then all of a sudden he stops texting me for the longest time. And out of know where last week he text me saying hey and asking me to hangout and go watch the sunrise with him because its "romantic" (i dont hangout with him when he ask me btw) but he only texts me twice a day, one in the afternoon and then at night. When he text me at night its either at 10 p.m or 11 p.m thats when he wants me to come over to cuddle and hookup but i know better not to go over isnt that a booty call though??. He only lives like 5 minutes away. Anyway I found last night as we were texting as to why all of a sudden he decides to text out of the blue! He says because at the last party we went to (which was back in May i believe of this year) we hooked up, then he heard from my "bestfriend" and 2 other people that i "regretted" hooking up with him!?! This was at a different "drunken" party that i didnt go that night somone told him.Whats weird about that is that I have one best guy friend who would know about that night and I never told anyone else, i also didnt say regretted hooking up with him. Im not sure whether or not to bring up the subject again to him today or just let it go because it was history and hes over it which is why he started to text, so he says. Or go up to my bestfriend and ask him to be truthfull with me and ask if he told him that lie.

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surfergirlsam replied 9 months ago:

Dump him. He obviously doesn't have much respect for you and you deserve better. You should also gently confront your best friend about spilling your secrets, make sure that you tell them when you want something to be confidential, or otherwise they may not know.

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uhohprettygirl replied 9 months ago:

thanks and I did confront my friend! He told me that he doesnt remember a thing that happened that night:/ but i have this feeling that my friend did tell him even if he denys saying anything that night to him because my best friend us to like me and i think he still does >.< so im thinking he said that so the guy could quit talking to me. whenever i bring him up (the guy i us to have a thing with) he always says oh that grimmy *** kid? like wtf really? and it just bothers me, you know.

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ModeratorB2121 replied 9 months ago:

HI there,

Thanks for sharing but here's the thing:

It is not ok for him to just stop calling you 'out of nowhere' with 'no explanation' and then at HIS convenience wants you to jump to his beckon call....You are your own boss, you call the shots, and YOU (if you want to say)....."CALL ME MAYBE" (:-

Sounds like he thinks your are not good enough or he is not committed enough to be in a relationship with you, just in case you start 'expecting 'things....He just wants to 'hook up' but that takes two..Listen to your gut instincts they are telling you this is not a good scenario ..You feel the energy, and so I know you are wary about this- which is perhaps why we are having this dialogue righht now, so i would just follow those instincts. They are always right!

Also, Your best friend sounds like 'he wants to party' as well, and get a piece of the 'action' meaning hanging out with you all the time and he is not into sharing that....so what's a poor guy to do? He conjures up a story to tell your 'booty-loving-friend' (BLF) to back off, and voila! you'll be all his and back in his arms 100% again!

I understand he is just a friend...but that happens a lot...and it is very possible as well, as your BFF he just simply wants (which a best friend should) the very best for you . He, thinks this bloke is a jerk and that you deserves so much more.

Whatever the case ? Don't sweat it, but think ....I smell a rat...It's not a good scenario..I 'd say --- keep the BFF, and I personally would not even bother to confront him about anything. However, be careful what you tell him esp. as it relates to your (BLF)! That bloke is not worth losing a bFF over!

Lastly, but most important---Don't forget ...People will treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you. Therefore, going forward, revisit and modify your standards and expectations, and raise those bars if you have to...Never settle and especially if you don't want to...It NEVER works! Remember, you are the boss of you!

Good luck (should be a piece of cake really). Please do let us know how you are doing ok 'prettygirl'? Take care and be well!..oh yeah..and Stay beautiful! (:-

Dr. J

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uhohprettygirl replied 9 months ago:

ohmygoodness. Thank you so much! It honestly means a lot! I will definitely take your adivce

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ModeratorErika replied 9 months ago:

@uhohprettygirl....Your dilemma sound all too familiar. I have to agree with a previous comment that was made - that people will treat you how you allow them to. You have to have your own set of rules on how you live your life. If I 'hooked up' with some guy and he stops calling me out of the blue I don't take offense to it all. I just figure it was his loss. Then again I try very hard not to have random hookups...not saying that I haven't had any in my past. You truly have to understand that life is way too short to be worrying, trying to figure out what someone else said, or what someone is thinking. Just focus on being the best YOU that you can possibly be and everything else will fall into place.

Always always always remember the power to the 'P'...men will treat it like a precious stone if that is how you think of it. You are walking around with a Ferrari everyone wants to take a ride but only those who work really hard for it are worthy of taking it for a spin. Good luck sweetheart and don't sweat the small stuff!!!

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uhohprettygirl replied 9 months ago:

Thank you erikacole! Its hard not to have random hookups haha, like one minute youre talking to some cute guy and the next bam! youre already hooking up with some cutie.

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ModeratorB2121 replied 9 months ago:

“ohmygoodness. Thank you so much! It honestly means a lot! I will definitely take your adivce”
by: uhohprettygirl

Aaaw---You are very welcome. Hope all's well. Take care of yourself ok?

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ModeratorB2121 replied 9 months ago:

“@uhohprettygirl....Your dilemma sound all too familiar. I have to agree with a previous comment that was made - that people will treat you how you allow them to. You have to have your own set of rules on how you live your life. If I 'hooked up' with some guy and he stops calling me out of the blue I don't take offense to it all. I just figure it was his loss. Then again I try very hard not to have random hookups...not saying that I haven't had any in my past. You truly have to understand that life is way too short to be worrying, trying to figure out what someone else said, or what someone is thinking. Just focus on being the best YOU that you can possibly be and everything else will fall into place.”
Always always always remember the power to the 'P'...men will treat it like a precious stone if that is how you think of it. You are walking around with a Ferrari everyone wants to take a ride but only those who work really hard for it are worthy of taking it for a spin. Good luck sweetheart and don't sweat the small stuff!!!

E

by: erikacole

I agree! Great advice Erika!

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Ysaura replied 9 months ago:

I just felt the same couple weeks ago, but the difference is that i never slept with him, we both wanted, but i said no, i thought that he would keep in touch at least to talk or go out, but he didnt, the couple weeks later he did the same , emailed me out of the blue, asking if i was still interested, bla, bla , bla...and I said to my self, whats up with this dude, I bet he couldnt get no body else to go out that night ...we did have a conversation at the next day and I told him clearly, Im not up for booty calls at all, he either was desperate or maybe he really wanted to see me again, anyway my sixth sense is telling me not to trust him at all .

Dont let men treat u like that,

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Pooh65 replied 8 months ago:

Go straight to the source. It does sound like a Booty Call. But, you two need to talk because every relationship has ups and downs and maybe some arguments, but if he plan on disappearing everytime something happens, you shouldn't want him in your life anyway. Good luck.

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ModeratorErika replied 6 months ago:

@uhohprettygirl you are very welcome & @ModerateB2121 thank you so much. With all that is going on today you just have to remember to think before you react...that will save you from a lot of stress. I know the feeling of being caught up in the moment....but you don't want to spend a lifetime regretting anything.

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