im goin thu a divorce...but now I find myself very horny what do I do?

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by mslys

11 months ago

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Im goin though a divorce right now and I find myself lusting after strangers. sex was a big part of my marraige, even when I didnt love him anymore I still had sex with him for my own pleasure but now I dont want to have sex with him. and I dont have a new partner....I am an attractive woman and very sexual. what do I do now? have random sex with strangers? I dont have an old boyfriend to run back to...Ive been married since high school. help? I dont wanna lose control...

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ThinkLikeWater replied 10 months ago:

Masturbate? I mean, you don't necessarily need men to satisfy lust. But, Having sex with random strangers is definitely NOT the right answer. And by the way, in case no one knew, Masturbation is healthy and quite common even amoung women.

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alanew replied 10 months ago:

i'm in the same boat you are, newly single and horny, toys, toys, toys. dont go crazy and have random sex, it's just not safe. i'm embracing the things i didn't do when in a relationship like learning to dance the tango and going out to local farmer markets and show.

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bettyliem replied 10 months ago:

Get married to someone else.

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teresa brown replied 10 months ago:

I will say get married to someone else and enjoy sex when you feel like it

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Jenichael replied 10 months ago:

I agree with alanew, toys are safe. Not only against disease but people who may mean you harm. Find new activities, and you will meet new people. If you like sex that much, go to a Adult Club. If ou find a good one that good reputation, find one who you have to be a member with and you will meet very interesting people. And NOOO they are not perverts!!! They get a bad rap. They are people who enjoy Good SAFE SEX..... Good Luck.

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ModeratorErika replied 9 months ago:

Whooooaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!! GET MARRIED!!!! Chile Boo!!! Look honey I got married very young too (18) and I am now divorced. If you are sexually excited all the time and can't figure out what to do the last thing you want to do is get involved with a man - well right now anyway. Look there are plenty of websites where you can purchase toys discretely in order to satisfy that beast with in called sexual prowess. Seeing how you haven't been single for a while try getting to know yourself first! Learn what you like and enjoy being single.Divorces can be hard, but look on the bright side now you have a little free time to explore what Maven Mslys likes and doesn't like. When you are ready to enter into a new relationship not only would you have developed emotionally, but you would have a better sense of self of which any man would appreciate. Good luck honey!

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Celeste1965 replied 8 months ago:

Toys are a safe option.

I stopped enjoying sex with my husband years before the divorce and hadn't had an orgasm in 10 years.

I couldn't enjoy sex with a man who was verbally and emotionally abusive. It was just another chore on my to do list, and I caved to stop him ********.

Now that I am divorced, I long for that connection again. I want to feel something...and not just the physical. I have had sex with two men in the last 18 months, and I didn't enjoy it. I need to feel connected to the man I'm with on an emotional level in order to enjoy sex.

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Phun Guy replied 5 months ago:

In my post on the SEX part of the Community page i asked about Mutual Masturbation Clubs.

Were friends get together and watch each other it is safe and fun,, I was part of a club years ago.

Everyone kept to themselves and watched, but if you asked for a helpinghand you would get it if the parties felt comfortable enuff. Never any penetration just rubbing and licking sort of things.

Any thoughts? phunguy4cpl@yahoo.com

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