is this wrong ?!

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by breyelint

9 months ago

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im 16 years old and my boyfriend is 27. he is my uncle's best friend and my uncle already know we are dating but my family doesnt know yet and im not planning to tell them until i turn 18. but mostly all my friends tell me that this relationship is wrong because he is too old for me and we do not have a future together. what do you guys think?

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asklotta replied 9 months ago:

Stop right now! You are only 16 with your life ahead of you and you are entitled to live a teenage life without an older man robbing you of that time. I question what would a healthy 27 year old man have in common with a 16 year old girl. The fact you are keeping it a secret from the ones you love the most, you know in your heart there is something wrong. Trust your instincts....you will never go wrong.

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breyelint replied 9 months ago:

i know! your totally right. i shouldnt even be in this situation :(

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asklotta replied 9 months ago:

You are correct, and now you have to get yourself out of it. Because you care about yourself (think about what is best for you) and at 16 that is exactly where you belong. You have plenty of time to live in a very grown up world, don't rush it. Once you're there, you are there no way out!

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Alejandra10 replied 9 months ago:

Don't rush anything! You are very young and should not be commited to someone who is older than you right now. If you were 25 and dating a 34 year old, then just maybe it would be ok, but you are 16! Live your life :)

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ModeratorB2121 replied 9 months ago:

Hi,

It's about the level of maturity, and the fact that as a teenager, life will be very differeent. Dating a 27 year old as a 16 year old, will have memebers of this board holding red flags and for different reasons as well. I am sure you have ypur reasons for dating him, perhaps he makes you feel super secure, in every way , even more beautiful etc., however Psychology tells us the level of maturity and development are at (like they should be) at 2 different levels. I am very curious, has he always dated women that much younger? Actually, it's not that fact he is older as Alejandra commented..It's just the level of development here.

Perhaps, he is afraid to commit, has been pressured into marriage etc., before, had some bad experiences with that C concept, and the fact you are ONLY 16 with your entire life ahead of you...He knows you are in school so not impossible but chances are (I hope I am right) (:- you are not thinking of having babies and getting married anytime soon....this will 'buy' him some time...no pressures?? Do you know the answer to this?

Regardless, even if that's the case..clearly, when you are ready for all this (if he is still around), you will find out then...that's a long time..Hopefully by then you would have a normal teen life(hhhhmm). What if then he simply moves onto a 20 year old? We don't know much of anything for sure humans are unpredictable, and therein lies the problem. You feel great now, but why not protect your future, finish school, get an education, a career that will leave you with more options? don't set yourself up for a heartbreak and a bunch of kids and very little education. I would tell you this even if your BF was 18! Please be careful. I would wait---a loooong time. Right now, focus on school and a career --Please say you will at least think about it ok? Good luck! Please stay in touch--You will always have support and 'friendly fire' (:-- here ok? so do check in. Take care!

DR. J

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AManInAPanda replied 9 months ago:

Hi, I have many personal reasons for disagreeing with this, but my biggest, non biased one, would be that of you not telling your family. If you feel you have to hide it from them, then you subconciously know that they wont approve. It's been said that what you assume others will think is really what you yoursel feel, but are too afraid to come straight out and say. Are you afraid to tell them ebcause you think they wont think it's appropriate? that probably means youa ren't comfortable with the situation. My advice? Get out of it. Live your teen years as a teenager and find teenage boys to date. You shouldn't be in a relationship where you have to hide anything, that just causes problems in the end.

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mamabella3 replied 9 months ago:

I dont think its wrong. well i do but in a different pint of view. I was 16 when i met my daugters dad who was 26 and we dated for almost 2 years til he started being mean to my son who wasnt his and i could see how bad my son felt that he loved our daugter more so we broke up a few months before my 18th birthday. we are amazing friends but i guess we just werent met to be. it wasnt the age in fact i think if you love them then age shouldnt matter. my 7th grade teacher taught me that there was a 15 year differents and they had been married for like 30 years. so if you love him go for it and theres no telling if it will work. i know that the only reason it didnt wrk for us is because he wasnt good to my son. good luck hun..

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daddysgirl1989 replied 9 months ago:

Sweetie this is so wrong and when your parents hear about you guys they are gonna be hurt and disappointed that your uncle is not protecting you and its gonna hurt a lot of people in your family and if you end up pregnant he might run off cuz I have heard of guys just running off when they get a girl pregnant you need to protect your heart cuz he's much to old for you and he is only going to hurt you in the end and I'm sure your a beautiful girl and you will find a guy who loves you for you and who won't use you because your smart your just making dumb choices just please do what's best for you and break it off with him before it goes too far and come clean to your parents. They love you.

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vness26az26 replied 9 months ago:

You are so young and have so many great things ahead of you. For goodness sake your brain isn't even fully developed!!!! He's totally taking advantage of the fact that you're so young. Seperate yourself for a few years and if you feel the same after you are 19, then by all means go for it! You can go to college and be as strong woman, you don't need to be with an older man, get knocked up then stuck for the rest of your life wondering what you COULD HAVE BEEN! STOP NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE.

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KimRD replied 9 months ago:

I am a school teacher and in my field we call those guys Pedophiles! Run as fast as you can in the other direction!!!

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securitygirl007 replied 9 months ago:

a 27 year old man should not be dating a 16 year old girl....think he can get it trouble legally for this as you are under age

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ttorres1964 replied 9 months ago:

I feel that this is just wrong. She is a little girl he is an older man and is ilegal

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kayem123 replied 9 months ago:

breyelint..

If you have to ask then I think you are already know the right answer. I usually do the best if I go with my gut..if you have reservations then YOU know something isnt right about this relationship. Sure its exciting..I remember what it was like to have an "older" guy pay attention ..

Take your time..sit back..THINK..which is hard to do sometimes. If you are hiding things now..think what may be in the future..

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lovebeinmomma21 replied 9 months ago:

First it's illegal, second if u feel it is wrong then it probally is. I hate sound like measn person but if cant find someone his own age he isnt worth much and can not provide what you need. My bf cheated on me with a 16 yr old at 22. My father cheated on my mother with a 22 year old when he was 45. My best friend is 22 dating the same 16yr old my bf cheated on me with. It's in a mans nature to want the young if you want to keep on with this make sure he loves you, not your age.

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mommaof4boys replied 9 months ago:

I date a guy when I was 16 he was 21. I thought it was totally cool. And his age made him hot! We spent a year together and over time I became his wife/ slave. He became controling abusive and munipulative. I'm am 25years old and have a 14 yr old step son. Now the age difference is the same. It's wrong and I know for a fact that YOU CAN DO BETTER! He probally can't. Sorry but as a person in this sisuation I wish you the best and hope you end it for your own security and enjoy your teen years. As much as you can!!!!!!

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Rockies Girl2 replied 9 months ago:

This is so totally wrong. If you were 26 and he 37, it would be different, but you are so young and have you whole life ahead of you. I also worry that you are keeping this from your parents and, on some level, you must realize this is not a good match.

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Veyda replied 9 months ago:

Nothin wrong it's true love

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Veyda replied 9 months ago:

On second through he might be hot but he is way to old for u. He will treat u like a slave girl and prob rape u so srry

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jen0521 replied 9 months ago:

You don't question True Love. Think about it.

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AlyaJNai replied 9 months ago:

I'm also 16 and my boyfriend is 18 ..but I agree with your friends bout that situation 27 is too old !!

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mochiusagi replied 9 months ago:

Well, I'm not going to say its wrong or bad, but whatever you do, remember to always use your head. The one on your shoulders that makes logical decisions-don't say 'I'm in love, so its okay if he's ___', if you think that something is wrong, then its probably wrong. Enjoy your love, but take a grain of salt: don't do anything rash, or something that will mess up your future-ie getting pregnant or something. Enjoy both your youth and your love, if its meant to be then fight for it, but the road will be harsh. Remember, you are young and have a whole new life just waiting out there, don't mess up. I wish you the best of luck.

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GrrEmoLove553 replied 9 months ago:

Well, this your decision to mae hun. It's your life so do what your heart tells you. If your in love then be with him as long as he understands you are 16 & you do need a life because i can semi relate. I am 17 & i am dating a 23yr old man & we are engaged... So there is plenty of chance of you guys lasting, also i think that ENLESS your heart tells you not to be with him, he pressures you to do things you shouldnt or dont want to, or he beats or hurts you in any way then i think the relationship you have is ok.. But in all honesty this is your decision to make :) Good Luck !!!

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AmyCD replied 9 months ago:

First clue, you haven't told your parents, gee why not, because you know they will tell you it's wrong. Why would they tell you it's wrong, because all parents are mean, they have children so they can be mean to them.

Parents do not want to be mean to there children.

When I was 16 I thought my parents were the dumbest things that ever climbed out of the primordial ooze! When I turned 21 I could not beleive how much they had learned in 5 short years.

Your 27 year old boyfriend knows what he is doing is wrong, or he already would have talked to your parents! Nothing you are doing hasn't been done before. Al of us have had to learn about love, sex and trust. It is not something we can just tell you, and you can understand. You haven't had the kind of 'Life Experience' to allow you to make descisions like this. Secrets are seldom ever good. Liing is never good. You know this, that is why you asked the question.

You are 16 years old, you need to grow up, you do not have a knowledge base to know what you are doing yet. Grown people make mistakes about love all the time (it's called divorce)

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Kyla92 replied 9 months ago:

me having a little sister that has started showing interest in boys already and shes only eleven. im gunna tell you that this a red flag. get out of this situation while its still fresh. he is a grown man attracted to a young girl. something has to be wrong with him sweetheart. im sorry.

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Beauty31 replied 9 months ago:

I think it's alright as long as he's not in it for the wrong reasons

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Beauty31 replied 9 months ago:

I think 16 is old enough to know if it's bad or not

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bev10 replied 9 months ago:

legally he could be in trouble because you are a minor. Secondly, since you are asking the question I think you already know that this is not right and lastly since you are hiding this from you parents it is definintly not a situation you should continue. What happens when they find out how is the relationship with them and your Uncle going to unfold? Do you think they will be very happy with him? I have a felling that this will cause a great many more problems in your family than you can even imagine. You are 16, date kids your age enjoy the teen years and once your an adult they seek and adult releationship with an adult not someone who wants to take advantage of you at this stage of your life and when he read this Yes you are taking advantage of her. Remember you can go to jail for statuatory rape at this point she is only 16 and you are 27.

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Mama1948 replied 9 months ago:

There is a reason why underage (males or females) are called "jail bait". It's because it's against the law for adults to date children. If you don't believe me I can send you the name of a 30-year-old teacher in our area who is headed to jail for 15 years for having sex with a minor, her 16-year-old male student. When your gut is telling you something you should listen, because it's God trying to guide you in the right direction.

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ccinah94 replied 9 months ago:

I think that if you truly love him, then why not? I know its scary sometimes to tell your family things and it may not be because you are ashamed or think they'll disapprove, but because it's different than others situations. I'm 17 almost 18 and never had i ever had a bf...why? because im so afraid of what my family will think of my first one (they're pretty judgemental on looks alone, for one) to the point that i push every guy away. You probably have a situation you cant talk about, but waiting and hiding for another two years is too tiring dont you think? of course unless you think he's worth it or it'll make a difference to your family. i think that whatever your heart and mind tells you, you'll figure out an answer to your own question without needing the judgement of others. You still have a whole life ahead of you, it's okay to make mistakes sometimes. (; Wish you the best of luck, it'll come to you, just dont stress too much over it.

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Nadja Camille replied 9 months ago:

Well im In the same situation to im 13 years old and im going to the 8th grade and my boyfriend is 19 and he is already in college and i havent even hit high school yet but we been together for almost 2 years but im just afraid to tell my parents but i met his parents

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surlanceslady replied 9 months ago:

YOU WHAT YOU FEEL IN YOUR HEART I AM 36 YEARS OLD AND I MET MY HUSBAND WHEN I WAS 16 AND HE WAS 30 AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 20 YEARS AND MARRIED FOR 8 SO AGE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT IF IT FEEL RIGHT TELL YOUR FAMILY IF NOT THAN YOUR HIDING IT FOR A REASON AND YOU NEED TO FIGURE OUT WHY

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mgbgirl90 replied 9 months ago:

I'm 16 as Well so I know first hand that it feels great when a older guy shows interest in you, but think of it this way why doesn't he find a woman his age what does he want in you a minor how isn't even fully mature, i thought of this and it comepletely turned me off from older guys, who arent celebrities

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coolcatkatiekoh replied 9 months ago:

don't know about you but i hate it when people tell me that my brain is not developed enough to handle the situation. I am 16 too. I don't see that there us anything wrong with you having a relationship with a 27 year old. But what makes the difference is him. Typically, guys only want one thing and they will go pretty far to get it. Now I'm not saying that this us him, but make sure his intentions are good and don't be fooled by simple tricks. When you are in a relationship you are always making excuses: to stay or to leave.

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coolcatkatiekoh replied 9 months ago:

Right now it seems like you are making excuses to stay. And I'm sure yor teachers have told you just as much as mine that excuses don't matter because you will still fail the assignment. Don't let him fail you. If you stay with him, REALLY know his intentions and have proof that he will stay. Tell your parents and once you have made your decision don't go back on it, whatever that decision may be. This is your life, and your choice, don't let anyone else take them from you

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coolcatkatiekoh replied 9 months ago:

And don't feel you relationship is wrong because you asked if it was wrong. If i question gods Existence, does that mean he does not exist? Of course not. You probably asked because people you care about told ypu it was wrong which contradicted how you feel. I think you are looking for reassurance, but you will hard pressed to find it. No one hear knows you or him, so they stereotype the two of you. Bottom line: identify his true intentions, make your own decision and tell your parents. Don't be another statistic.

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Dali344 replied 9 months ago:

I don't believe, that for love there are no bonderies. I got married at age 14trs old. He was than 25 yrs old. And continue to be married. Now going on 29 years of marriage. 4 sons grown, and 2 grand kids. And still at at a good aga so we can enjoy our self.

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1116 replied 9 months ago:

You are to young for this person their is something wrong with a person who like someone who is immature you need to think and I know you know this is wrong a person 27 does not have a relationship with a teenager he knows he can control you no life for you Think real hard before it is to late

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moseradj replied 9 months ago:

I was 15 and he was 20. I gave up all my teenage friends for his and missed one of the most important phases of my own personal growth. Whether you realize it or not he will be making all the decisions for you, whether or not he loves you, and you will spend a long time going along. After all, he knows more than you. Unfortunately, you will not grow emotionally, educationally or otherwise, even if you continue school and even get a job. All your dreams will be his dreams. Your parents should toss him out for the predator he is. No man his age needs to be with a young girl of your age unless he knows his real need is not to love for to control and manipulate. This can continue for a very long time unless you smarten up and get out now. Tell him if he reallly loves you he will come back in four or five years, without any contact between now and then, and if you both feel the same way then you can pick up where you left off. Believe me, you won't even if he does. Be the bright girl I know you are and control your own destiny. This happened to me many years ago when there was no one to help me out of the situation (one I insisted was right for me at the time). After 17 unhappy and unfulfilled years I had the nerve to leave and start over and it was very hard. I actually felt sorry for this man who ruined my life because he was always more needy than I was. You ever recover those years of lost youth. Be brave and get out.

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V3r0n1ca replied 9 months ago:

I don't know you but Im assuming that YOU are having 2nd thoughts about your situation if your blogging it. As the saying goes, "if you have to think twice about something, then its probably wrong".For you to ask for opinions and advice shows in a way you are mature. I'm glad. What I want to say is don't waste your young years with someone who is pulling you down. You shouldn't even be thinking of guys, boys,men whatever, right now. Think of how your going live your future. What are my plans? What do I want to be? What college do I want to go to? When my high school reunion comes, how am I going to impress my class?lol. I was bad in school. I thought the world was after me. I was so bitter. Always getting sent the office for fights, my mouth and my behavior. My family always talked mess behind my back. But you know what, I'm glad, you know why? That pushed me to prove them wrong. And guess what? I did. I now work for a Judge. I never though I'd be where I'm at. And when my high school reunion came, they never thought I'd be where I am either. It felt sooo good. My whole lecture is mainly about proving all those who don't think highly of you. Start getting your future plans going because pretty soon your adulthood will come into play. Don't mess it up by dating this guy, who probably treats you like a kid or by getting pregnant. Sit down, mak e a T-Chart writing your Pros and Cons, your If' I stay with him and your If I don't. Do a test for me. Go to the guy and tell him what you want to do with your future (career). If he stands by it, great, then he' wait for you if he cares for you. If he doesn't, then obviously he's not worth it. I'm only suggesting this because your not going to listen to no one but yourself.

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kajpt replied 9 months ago:

I do agree with most of the comments: he is too old for you. Certainly, you have your whole life ahead and trying to keep the relationship secret from your parents is certainly not a wise move. I could well imagine he is your sunshine, snowflakes and all but what seems like a must have at 16, when u become 26 you will ask: How did I end up here? Pursue things that 16yr olds do: a sound education, healthy friendships with your peers. You will regret this if you fail to firsr of all seek the loving support of your parents. They will be disappointed at first but trust me, they will get over it and give you the loving support you need. Please, don't throw your life away, you are special. Best wishes.

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breyelint replied 9 months ago:

i dont know cuz the only reason why i asked this question is because of my mother, iknow she would NOT let me be with a guy this old even thou she is married with a man that could be her father. (my father passed away) & like i know i feel something really strong for him and im pretty sure he is not w/ me because of sex since we talked for 5 months w/o doing anything & i met his mom and his family and he always wants me around his family. also, he is going to college right now to get his master and he is working and everything and he is always talking about us having a future together, moving together when i hit 18 and having kids when im done with college. and the thing is that i believe him because he was married for 8 years with a girl and they didnt have kids because he wasnt ready and he still not ready lol. & when people say im gonna waste my best years not really because whenever i need to go out with my friends i go and he does the same because we trust each other, like right now im on vacation n Florida & he is back at home & i miss him and everything but im living my life to the fullest and he doesnt like prohibit me that. so, honestly im doubting my relationship because i wanna please my family but i realized that if i stick to that plan i would never have a bf lol because my mom is something else lol

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teresa brown replied 9 months ago:

Let me start saying this some people used to say age ain't nothing but number it true, I will like to say this to you be careful who you date life ani't that easy now it hard those day who you date it your family business because you are a child but you need them to know who you are dating so your parents can help you understand this. Their want the best for you and i know their loves you so much please let them know sit down with your family and talk to them about your relationship keeping a secret it not a good idea one day someone going to find a way tell your family i think you got alots of grown up to do.He is 27 and you 16 i don't see any future planned for you and him you need to think hard education is important but dating someone 27 is kindly little old for you please no 27 year old think about relationship it ani't going to last long...........I want to wish you best of luck keep your h-e-a-d up that all matter turst your heart .

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joeygaines96 replied 9 months ago:

I personally dont agree with this..hes WAY over age. Im 15 and the oldest I ever dated was 18..I wouldnt take it that far. I love older guys but hes illegal. If you really love him and he loves you then you can hold off on a relationship until a better time, but dont throw away your youth for him..

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notme replied 9 months ago:

It's not illegal for the two of you to date. It's illegal for you to have sex. I really hope you're not. I met my husband when he was 17 and I was 24, not as vast a difference but still a big one. However, although it was kind of a "love at first sight" situation, we never kissed or admitted our feelings to each other until after he was 18. My advice is that, if you guys are really in love, he will be willing to wait and you should be, too. Back off and be friends, talk to him and let him know what's going on, that you want to wait to have that kind of relationship. You can still hang out and have fun together, just not be physically involved. Maybe you are very mature for your age, and maybe it will work out. If you care about him, don't risk sending him to jail.

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hannyjulifa replied 9 months ago:

oh my god. 16 is exactly my age and 27 is exactly my ex's age. we dated for a year and a half but we're still so close he's like my boyfriend. so it's really no difference between us dating or not. but he's so mature (which is good) and i really don't like the immature moron guys my age. reading the comments above makes me wonder if i should continue with him or not :( any suggestions would help!

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breyelint replied 9 months ago:

iknow thats the thing thou i dont wanna be with an immature moron my age!!! i dont have time to be dealing with lil kids and pretty boys lolo thats why i stick to older guys

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asklotta replied 9 months ago:

What do you mean you don't have time....at 16 you have all the time in the world.

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breyelint replied 9 months ago:

iknow but i dont wanna waste my time being in a relationship with a lil kid and suffering and stressing over bs u know what i mean ?

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asklotta replied 9 months ago:

An older man does not mean a stress free relationship. All it means is right now at your young age, all you are trying to do is take a short cut to happiness and trust me on this one....you can't, no one can!

Because you see there is a lot of learning that needs to happen in order to understand and appreciate a great, loving and respectful relationship. Just the fact he is 27 and you are 16 means he does not respect you. It means he likes jail bate. Plus there is no law stating you have to be in a relationship right now. Try developing some personal skills on your own to find out who you are and what you want, not only now but in the future! To be honest that is YOUR job right now, to figure out what and who you what to become...at 16 you are still baking to perfection! Which I know you want as well...

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wildhoney replied 9 months ago:

he is a pedophile. And you need to stop it, what kind of uncle do you have? wow 27, he has serious problems, and is ruining your life.

You are a young girl wich is all he sees,

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asklotta replied 9 months ago:

Wildhoney said it perfectly...Thank you!

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ScEhXiYch replied 9 months ago:

WRONG! He is probably using u

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Lastword3600 replied 9 months ago:

Thank you for posting this! I'm in almost exactly the same situation except I met my 23 yr old boyfriend through work. And before I was interested in him at all I thought the same way as pretty much everybody on this feed telling you he's just using you. But it's more than just numbers... I think if you knew each other for awhile before there was a love interest then it's not creepy, it's just out of the ordinary. I havent told my parents either because I don't want to hurt them or their vision of who I am because my path isn't changing. I'm still college bound, I haven't given anything up to be with him, and he supports my goals, which were in place long before I met him. I am planning on introducing him to my parents when I'm 18 and I know they still won't approve but then they can't do anything rash; it's a way of protecting him. But if he's treating it like a high school boy does then it's a not a good situation. I've had a couple high school relationships and I ended up getting screwed over in every single one. As long as he treats you better than anyone else could, then this relationship is a good thing in my opinion.

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breyelint replied 9 months ago:

Thank you for posting this! I'm in almost exactly the same situation except I met my 23 yr old boyfriend through work. And before I was interested in him at all I thought the same way as pretty much everybody on this feed telling you he's just using you. But it's more than just numbers... I think if you knew each other for awhile before there was a love interest then it's not creepy, it's just out of the ordinary. I havent told my parents either because I don't want to hurt them or their vision of who I am because my path isn't changing. I'm still college bound, I haven't given anything up to be with him, and he supports my goals, which were in place long before I met him. I am planning on introducing him to my parents when I'm 18 and I know they still won't approve but then they can't do anything rash; it's a way of protecting him. But if he's treating it like a high school boy does then it's a not a good situation. I've had a couple high school relationships and I ended up getting screwed over in every single one. As long as he treats you better than anyone else could, then this relationship is a good thing in my opinion.
by: Lastword3600

exactly what i think

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ModeratorB2121 replied 9 months ago:

“You don't question True Love. Think about it.”
by: jen0521

Jen,

That's the problem..or the question...Is it true love? and at 16 are you capable of discerning and deciphering that? I think not...The mind is not fully developed( Developmental Psych.1010)...Also, the fact that there are lies and decption involved here too...?? Not Good...a concoction of ('sex' lies, indecent/perhaps illegal in her State I don't know)...I would love to hear his side--Is he really 'in it to win it'? Hmmm..bottom line, we cannot tell her what to do...we are just making suggestions and giving opinions like she asked us to...I still know in my heart, it is best for her to concentrate on school. If he loves her as much as he has professed to her...he will wait ubtil she comes 'of age' and can make healthy, educated, well-informed decisions. The fact she is asking us aboout 'true love' tells you she is confused..because that's just it...how often when as adults we fall in love and ask if its ok? she is asking because she does not feel safe and comfortable with this relationship. She is in essence saying..."I know it's wrong"...but?... Breylin..correct me if I am wrong.

Also, I saw friend...but I just realized that's your uncle's BFF! are you serious? I wonder how he would feel if you were his daughter not his neice...? Yikes!

Dr. J

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Pooh65 replied 9 months ago:

This is wrong in so many ways. Evidently, your Uncle can not be trusted, so watch your back. He is putting his friend before you sweetie, you must see that. He is getting his MAN on with you right now young lady, I pray that you come to terms with this situation and drop him. But your Uncle should be ashamed of himself. Please think about it.

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bupkiss replied 8 months ago:

End the relationship now. I promise you when I say this, he knows what hes doing is wrong, and as soon as your parents find out this guy can lose his life and become a sex offender. If he made a wrong choice, why continue it and jeopardize his future and yours? If you care about him, end the relationship.

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teeniemother94 replied 7 months ago:

yea no end this, im saying this and i got with my baby daddy at 15 and he was 21, this guy is way out of you range..

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brianna43157 replied 7 months ago:

no it's not wrong. i was once in your situation.when i was was 14 i was in a relationship with a 27 year old and we were madly inlove. age is just a number and always wiil be. love can over power anything no matter the cause.if you really love him then be with him. dont let anyone one tell who you can or can not love... i hope my words have helped you:)good luck:):):)

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breyelint replied 7 months ago:

GUESS WHAT GUYS ! 8 months later this relationship ended and i finally realize he wasnt worth it.he said he wanst happy in this relationship but im pretty sure he just found a older girl.

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