Parents living with husband & I , How to break the news that we want them to move out.

by classydebbie

8 months ago

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My parents are great people ,they are both in their 70's and healthy, however I have 3 other brothers who live in the same area and would now like them to take over having my parents live with them. I have had a guilty concious for some time now about this. They have a place in Florida which they live in for 6 mths of the year for the past 20 yrs since they both retired at 55. Now my husband & I want to do the same. We would like to downsize, which means they would have to find their own place. They don't think they can afford their own place. So that is why I feel guilty, even though they say not to worry about them. It has been affecting my health & well being. I am feeling like I am staying in their home. They have their own space in an in-law suite, however we share a kitchen.

Patience wearing thin.

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  bupkiss replied 8 months ago:

  just say you need to move out to continue your own life.

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  MumKat replied 7 months ago:

  Talk with your brother's first, explain to them what your plans are, ask them if they would consider taking them in, even if they split the years up between the three of them, just explain to them all the joys of having your parents around and that you would be concerned about leaving them if you and your husband were to go to Florida and such...Hopefully one of your brother's may understand and take them in or even have them close to them in a place they could afford. Then discuss things with your parents after talking with your brothers, but make sure you don't make a final decision until after you all get together and talk, listen to your parents too on the advice that you and your brothers have, they might have slight different ideas but good ones.

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