MellowD replied 8 months ago:
You have to look at all the behaviors… are his relationships with others intense and unstable. Does he swing wildly from love to hate and back again. Does he tend to see things in terms of extremes, either all good or all bad and typically view himself as victim of circumstance and take little responsibility for himself or his problems? Might he have feelings of emptiness and boredom, frequent displays of inappropriate anger? Is he impulsive with money, substance abuse, sexual relationships, binge eating, or shoplifting? Is he intolerant of being alone or recurrent acts of crisis such as wrist cutting, overdosing, or self-injury (such as cutting)
All those things are very unnerving alone when put together are hell to live with… please look at the big picture. No one ever stays at the exact same place… they are either getting better or worse… growing or dying. You are the only person you can do anything about. You can talk until your blue in the face to no avail. You need worry about you and no matter how much you love him put you first. I know this all maybe very extreme to you and I hope it is…. But I wish I would have looked at the whole picture and maybe I could have avoided the nightmare.