editorNadia
replied over 1 year ago:
It sounds like you're going through a really tough time. The best thing you can offer yourself right now is self-compassion. Be gentle with your pain and try to tune in to what you need right now. Let yourself feel bad and even (this might seem extreme) embrace those feelings. Some psychologists suggest that depression is our body's way of giving ourselves time to reflect and grow. By allowing ourselves to withdraw, we acknowledge a problem in the status quo and give ourselves the opportunity to create positive change in our lives. Getting out of a depression usually requires challenging negative thoughts and testing new behaviors that might feel scary or unpleasant now. That healing process is what allows us to grow. Some depressions last only a short time and resolve naturally, but since yours has been going on for awhile, seeing a professional psychologist, psychiatrist or licensed clinical social worker is the best way to resolve those feelings. When I was a kid, whenever I was struggling or upset, my mom used to say to me, "this too shall pass." Remembering that always brings me comfort. While it may take time and effort, you will heal. Until then, be gentle and kind to yourself.
