depression

by amyfoster2307

over 1 year ago

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i've been suffering with depression on and off for about 4 years, i'm 18 now and have recently started taking anti depressants again. they work for me and have made me feel much better, but the only problem is my boyfriend. he knows about my history with it but doesnt know i'm ill with it again and that i'm taking medication, because at the start of the relationship he told me that if i became ill again he didnt think it would last between us. he doesnt understand depression and thinks that if im depressed it must mean hes not making me happy, which is not true. but i hate lying to him and keeping it from him i feel so guilty but im scared of how he would react if i told him.

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  editorNadia replied over 1 year ago:

  First of all, I'm glad to hear that the medication is helping you and you are absolutely right that depression is an illness that deserves treatment and care like any other illness. It's not your fault and it's not your boyfriend's fault. It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't quite understand what depression is or why it happens, so educating him about it might be a great first step. If you've been together for a long time and feel like he's going to be a part of your life for awhile, then you might have him come to a therapy session with you where your therapist can help explain the illness and talk to him about how he can best help you during these times. That's vulnerable for you though, so only do that if you feel really comfortable with that option. Another option would be to sit down with your school's counselor to just talk about what depression is, why it happens, and what he can do to help you. Often, partners of people with depression feel really helpless since it's not an easy fix, so he might just need some help understanding his role in helping you through this. However you decide to approach it, honesty is important in a relationship, and learning to support each other through this can strengthen your relationship.

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  nelly26 replied over 1 year ago:

  Hey that sounds like me lol. I have always suffered from depression of and on also. I told my man of 5 years that I wanted to take some meds. And like yours he would say whats wrong you are not happy with me. The thing is men suffer differently than women I think. I am 27 years old and I have 4 kids. Yes I do know that having kids increase the depression more. So I did take meds for two weeks off and on and I did not like they way it made me feel at all. They changed it to another pill. Before I took it I look online about it and did you know that the longer you stay on depression pills the worst your depression gets not only that look at all the side effects. I mean really wow i would rather suffer. Anyway after that I had a long talk with my man and I told him I really need help and I need to get it some how with out pills. So i once again looked up natural ways to boost you energy and self self if that sounds right lol. Let me tell you when you have the good kind of energy you will feel so good about you. It made me feel so good. For me I found that (sorry so long ) if you have low energy levels it can make you feel very depressed. One more thing If your man can not stand by your side and be there for you then you dont need him. He can be another part of your suffering. I love the fact that my man listen to me and even though he didnt understand he still is here for me. Yes some days are worst than other but try to push those feelings away . Try to look at the good side and some thing are out of our hands . We can fix everything. Being your age man it can be hard but Please what ever you do do let it get the best of you. Also try to lay off the pills some to. I know they give you a high but how do you feel when its over? See pills are a cover up like drinking and smoking they dont fix. Work on fixing okay. Let me know if this helped any and I can always talk if you need me (nicholettiewoods@yahoo.com )

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