editorNadia replied over 1 year ago:
First of all, I'm glad to hear that the medication is helping you and you are absolutely right that depression is an illness that deserves treatment and care like any other illness. It's not your fault and it's not your boyfriend's fault. It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't quite understand what depression is or why it happens, so educating him about it might be a great first step. If you've been together for a long time and feel like he's going to be a part of your life for awhile, then you might have him come to a therapy session with you where your therapist can help explain the illness and talk to him about how he can best help you during these times. That's vulnerable for you though, so only do that if you feel really comfortable with that option. Another option would be to sit down with your school's counselor to just talk about what depression is, why it happens, and what he can do to help you. Often, partners of people with depression feel really helpless since it's not an easy fix, so he might just need some help understanding his role in helping you through this. However you decide to approach it, honesty is important in a relationship, and learning to support each other through this can strengthen your relationship.