A dream or an illusion?

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by Honey456

10 months ago

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I met a guy over 5 years ago. When we first met it seemed like such a connection BUT he had a girlfriend. We talked here and there on social networking sites to which he flirted and I flirted back. He and his girlfriend then broke up to which I was extremely happy because that meant now he will fully pursue me. Well he didn’t. Each time it felt like an opportunity to have a chance, we would all go out, he would bring a date (he ended up in a 3 year relationship with her that ended just last year). Anyway we haven’t talked in all these years except minor heys and how are yous. I’ve had two serious relationships in the past 5 years. Anyway NOW we are both single again. Should I still think of this as an opportunity or have I been looking into an illusion and it is time to hang up the dream in a box and ship it away? lol

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pertella replied 9 months ago:

hm , its an illusion . think about it , he ends up single & when he has the chance , BAM he brings another girl when he could've asked you .

I think you should just move on , there are PLENTY of guys out there & you're just sitting there waiting for something thats never gonna happen . you deserve best , dont just wait . its been years right ? so , search for something else (:

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ModeratorErika replied 9 months ago:

Honey456 sorry sweets but it is an illusion. If a man is genuinely interested in you he would pursue you. I don't think you should spend any more of your precious time wondering if this guy is into you. If you really want to know you should just ask. The worst that can happen is will say no....that's it!!! You will still be the same exact person the next morning only difference is you now exactly where you stand. Good luck on your quest for love. The right people usually walk into your life when you're really ready. Happy Sunday!

Erika

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Honey456 replied 9 months ago:

Hey guys you are absolutely right. I actually knew this answer to my question but sometimes just hearing it from a complete stranger sinks in a little bit more, but I am def letting go of that hope lol

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bettyliem replied 9 months ago:

Just follow your heart. Regards.

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NullNull replied 7 months ago:

You need to get your head on straight and start thinking right.

This guy has a girlfriend and you think its OK for him to be flirting with you? What if YOU were his girlfriend? You probably wouldn't be very happy that he's flirting with other women, would you?

Just like how some people say, "I'll leave my gf/bf and we'll be together". Well, that probably sounds all romantic and makes you feel special, but they already showed they have the will and intent to leave someone for you.. what makes you think you're SO special they won't leave you for the next hot thing that comes around?

Illusion? You should be telling this creep to pound sand, not wondering if it could work now that you're both single again. Look, if you just want to get it on, do a one night stand and get it out of your system. Either way, this guy isn't relationship material... take it from a guy who knows.

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NullNull replied 7 months ago:

“Just follow your heart. Regards.”
by: bettyliem

That's how 1000 people ended up drinking cyanide laced koolaid in the jungle in 1978. Horrible advice.

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Honey456 replied 7 months ago:

lolol @Null your pretty funny, well can someone teach me how to delete this post cuz I no longer feel this way.

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Honey456 replied 7 months ago:

I almost feel embarresed that I was attracted to someone for that long

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