Am I more a sugar mammy than cougar to my toyboy?

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by boringmomma11

9 months ago

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I'm a 38-year-old woman who is dating a 26-year-old man before we met on dating site Sugarmommameet (dot com), and I've heard it all about being a cougar and him being a toyboy. But there is something I'd like to run past you, which I don't want to mention to my friends because they would only slag me off.

In fact, I'm afraid they would call me a 'sugar mammy'. My boyfriend has a habit of sponging money off me, like when we're in the pub and he says he has no cash on him, and the same when it comes to paying taxi fares and restaurant bills, or when we go food shopping. I gave him the benefit of the doubt at first because he's a lot of fun. But do you think I've got myself more of a gigolo than a toyboy?

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vanessahubbard replied 9 months ago:

U applyed to a sugarmomma add a sugardaddy from what guys have told me is a man that pays for every thing the female wants as long as she comes running when he calls for sex,ect.maybe u should have just went to a sight that was just for dating...goodluck

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Angel1977 replied 9 months ago:

Yes maam that's what you are sorry.

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Mama1948 replied 9 months ago:

If you want to be with a man who has the ability to pay for dinner, taxis, groceries, etc. perhaps you need a sugar daddy. A 26-year-old is usually not established well enough financially to provide the things you mentioned on a continuous basis. Seems to me you are in the midst of the situation to which you applied on the website you chose, and it appears he's getting that for which he applied as well.

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V3r0n1ca replied 9 months ago:

Remember, you did meet him in that website. So Yes, he is using you. But if you enjoy his presence, by all means continue. If your tired move on to another.

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kajpt replied 9 months ago:

I believe he is taking advantage of you. Eventhough he may be fun to be around and we all love being around people who make us feel alive, the reality is that he is a bum. I don't see you guys having a future. You owe it to yourself to be with someone who would love and care for you genuinely and not be around for what he can get. You know what you must do and you sound smart so you will do right for you. Hurry!

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ModeratorB2121 replied 8 months ago:

Respectfully, I will say this...He posted an ad on that site for what he wanted. You answered/responded to his post and went on the site knowing the premise. There is an unwritten code of behaviour that neither of you will really have to confirm..but It would be more like..."I am looking for an older woman, because (for most part) they are more financially stable" From you comes "I don't mind financially taking care of a younger man" Or "I want a much younger man, even if I have to take care of his financial needs'....I am not certain that can be labelled as 'using'? You both made it crystal clear what you were looking for by meeting....on that site..Which is why he asks you for money etc., he expects it..and I am sorry, why should he not? and you should too. Now if you have had a change of heart about all this..simply tell him and walk away. Good luck-I know you will make the right decision!

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cuckholddon replied 8 months ago:

To my understanding -A sugar Momma or daddy Does Pay for things!Goggle it!

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NullNull replied 6 months ago:

Obvious troll is obvious.

Bet you're also the one who posted as "hotsugarmamma".

Not well played.

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