angry, mad

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by mizzdiaz89

over 1 year ago

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I SIT AT WORK EVERYDAY TRYING TO UNDERSTAND WHAT HAPPENED WHY IT HAPPENED? I FOLLOWED THE RULES I WAS THE UNDERSTANDING, DID AS HE SAID, TOOK CARE OF HIM, SHOWED HIM LOVE, HELPED HIM IN EVERYTHING HE NEEDED HELP ON, I DIDNT HAVE EXPECTATIONS, I WAITED FOR HIM TO MAN UP AND I DIDNT GET NOTHING. IM SO ANGRY BECAUSE THE GIRL THAT HE LEFT ME FOR IS SAYING THINGS ABOUT ME THAT ARENT TRUE I KNOW I SHOULD BE THE BETTER GURL AND WALK AWAY BT IT MAKES MI MADDDDD TO KNOW THAT HE IS TALKING ABOUT MI LIKE THAT WHEN I NEVER DID ANYTHING WHY CANT GUYS JUST WALK AWAY? AND NOT SAY ANYTHING BAD ? JUS LET GO U DECIDE TO HURT US AND ABUSE US AND TREAT US AS TRASH.. THE HARDESST PART IS STARTING OVER WHY?='(

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editorNadia replied over 1 year ago:

You are totally right that the hardest part is starting over, and the biggest obstacle to doing that is letting go of all the pain and frustration from the breakup. Unfortunately, the breakup rarely ends with "it's over"--it can keep going through rumors, fights, and nasty comments from new girlfriends. But the best way to stop the cycle is counter-intuitive: Do something unexpected. If this new girl or your ex thinks you're going to be upset by their badmouthing, then just say, "You know what, I've moved on and I'm really happy for you. I hope we can get to a place where we get along." You're not being kind so they'll get off easy or think you're the bigger person--you're doing it for you. If you can diffuse the negativity, you'll be able to let go of that frustration and anger and truly move on with your life. Just kill 'em with kindness, as they say.

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mizzdiaz89 replied over 1 year ago:

ive done that. i told him exactly that and ive steped off so i wouldnt have to deal with this drama and still dealing wit it i am a strong person but i dont know he broke me , ive even hid myself for a bit to ignore everything

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shye mugga replied over 1 year ago:

I wish I were as strong as u but I'm not I'm n a miserable relationship n dont kno how to cope ....

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fedup34 replied over 1 year ago:

I'll tell you, they're not worth it. He's certainly a child because a real man will walk away. He's just saying the negatives for pitty and the new is just a jackass because she could Be next. It's sad that woman have to bear s much, just ignore them both and find inner Peace in what ever way you can. I've went throgh sooooo much but I'll tell you god is great. There is churches available if you need a ear that will not judge you or mislead you in any way. Then you have lots of inspirational books, and online prayers for it all, strenght, guidance, protection, Peace of mind and much more. You sound real smart, utilize your sources and don't dwell or waste No more energy, not worth it.

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fedup34 replied over 1 year ago:

Find that inner strengh within you, you'll be amaze what you have. Just pray, god is great

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fedup34 replied over 1 year ago:

I I could't say it any better. Your advice goes a long way

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fedup34 replied over 1 year ago:

Change your #. That was me, giiving up the world, feeling helpless and sorry for myself but reality Have to kick in and you must see that you're bless with life, health, strength, eyes, legs, arms and much More. I learned those are the things we should look at. If this guy is right or wrong only god knows. It Will al fll in place. Find joy within you, trust me I know it is hard. Try having your husband looking at Other woman every day on the streets, watching porn on a regular, but refuse to touch you on the regular. What do you do cheat or do without, I realized to just have faith in god. I hope you feel a bit better.night nigt

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bettyliem replied over 1 year ago:

Maybe you are one of those women who loves too much, if there is such a thing. Good luck.

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selene replied over 1 year ago:

i had that happen to a friend of mine and this is the advice i gave her and it worked really well frist of no one has no blame in a relashionship and also no one is to blame it just didnt work out get a bunch of girl freinds together and go out guy hunting i know its hard and it hurts but its so much nicer to find someone else who is worthy of you and if he doesnt get that then ignore him its not easy but it is doable and i found out that sometimes why a guy does that is cause 1 he ethier still likes you or 2 he feels guilty cause of what he did i hope you find someone better good luck

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