Break up

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by poohbear89

over 1 year ago

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years, but it has been pretty bumpy the past 6 months. I seem to be constantly picking arguments and I pushed to far. 2 weeks ago he finally had enough and called it quits, at first I begged and pleaded for him not to leave me. He felt bad and gave in to me saying he did not want to try to make it work but since I so clearly wanted to he would do it for me. Basically for a week I was making an effort towards a brick wall, he was so cold and not himself, he did not kiss me or tell me he loved me. It drove me crazy I missed his warmth, his love and appreciation for me just vanished. Finally I had enough I could not take feeling so rejected I drove up to his house to get all my stuff and to my surprise he seemed shocked and unwilling to let me take my stuff and go. He followed me around saying "stop just can we talk about this" and after I left he called me three times and text me saying "I am sorry I ruined this". The whole thing left me extremely confused and unable to go full force in trying to move on. A couple days after I got my stuff went by with no talking until he text me saying "do you want the pictures" I am assuming he was referring to our photos. I text him back saying "no". A day or two later he called me at work saying he missed my voice and he missed waking me up in the mornings and wanted a family with me. I am totally confused if he is playing a game or really wants to get back together. Any advice?

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bettyliem replied over 1 year ago:

Follow your heart.

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tdap123 replied over 1 year ago:

His other choice may not have been serious. I say move forward, he is playing with your head. There are many men out there that would love to treat you like the princess that you are.

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Ville replied over 1 year ago:

Your situation is kind of similar to mine. I say you move forward but do what you think is best. I'm trying to move forward. It's tough. He'll act sweet and loving when he's trying to get me back. Once he has me, he'll stay sweet for about 2 weeks. Then back to being cold. It hurts. I want things to go back to being the same but I know they won't. Keep in mind that everyone is different. Your guy won't necessarily act like mine did. One more thing, I don't think you should get rid of anything he gave you. Take the pictures. I know a lot of people might disagree with me but I deeply regret throwing away my stuff. Put all of it in a box. Somewhere hidden from sight . Many years from now you might regret not having any of that stuff. Whatever you decide, things will get better. -Ville

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poohbear89 replied over 1 year ago:

Thank you for the replies. As of right now he called again and when I called him back he said he missed me and I told him you cant just call everytime you miss me it is not fair and it wont let me move on. He told me he didn't just call to tell me he misses me he thinks the time we spent apart showed him that leaving me would be the biggest regret of his life. He said he wants to give it 150 percent and make things work. That was last night around 6:30pm he asked if he could call me back cause I was on my way to a doctor apt. It was 9:30 and I got impatient and called him he said he had his friend Jimmy over and asked if he could call me back but I told him nicely I was going to bed so he said ok can I text you to say goodnight later so it wont wake you up if you are sleeping I said yeah. He text me around 10:45pm. I called him back in the morning we talked shortly and he told me he would call me later around lunch. He never called (I am very impatient). I am so confused at all of this, I feel like if you tell someone you want to make it work wouldn't you start by calling more?

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poohbear89 replied over 1 year ago:

You think he met someone else? My gut is telling me he did. :/

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bettyliem replied over 1 year ago:

Do what you feel will be best in the long run.

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tinatwinA replied about 1 year ago:

I just went through the same deal and I'm trying to get over the most recent "abandonment." I feel so lost and empty , and sometimes I think I will lose my mind. He just woke up one morning and refused to talk to me and that was that. He gave me not even one reason of why he was doing this.......but this was the third time it happened. I still talk to his family and every once in a while I will leave him a message on his cell, which I never know if he reads it. My girls miss him so much. My point is this, this will keep being a "see-saw" relationship until someone has the courage to end it. Yes no matter what it hurts, but dragging it out will not benefit anyone and could make the hurting worse. He had the strength to end it ~ he just didn't end it correctly by just walking away with out one word said. also when kids are involved, they should not be abandoned like that....because not only are they sad for the parent they see upset but they also wonder if they did something wrong and if they are still loved.

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