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over 3 years ago

How to tell a guy you don't want to go out...
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  • User_8
    over 3 years ago
    It takes courage for a guy to ask you out, so even if you're not into him, it's best to let him down gently. At the same time, you have to be straight with him. (Stringing him along is just torture.) Just tell him he's a really nice guy and you're flattered that he asked you out, but you'd rather just be friends. Like ripping off a bandaid as gently and sweetly as possible.
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    over 3 years ago
    If a guy ask you out and you dont want to then you should just let him down easy and maby pair him up with one of your friends or something.
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    over 3 years ago
    just tell him. dont be rude about it but just tell him your not interested. and ask him if he wants to be friends.
  • Art
    Art Markman, Ph.D. Psychology Advisor
    over 3 years ago
    It is important to be able to talk to people about things that they might not want to hear. Even when there is a guy you really like, there will be things about him that you're not so wild about. So, you need to be able to say things that might disappoint someone else. It is important to be direct (but kind). Often, when we talk to people we don't want to hurt, we say things indirectly. ("I'm just not interested in a relationship right now...") People interpret what you say as generously as possible. (If you say "right now" then that leaves open the possibility for the future.) Better to say something like, "I think you're a (nice, sweet, interesting) person, but I am just not interested in getting romantically involved with you." It seems harsh to say it directly, but it helps in the long run. And the better you get at saying things directly, the healthier your relationships will be with the people you really are interested in.
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    over 3 years ago
    Simply say no thanks I am not really interested. Do not lead him on in any way because this could lead to more problems for you. Men can be very persistent and when they feel rejected that might not be willing to accept it. Just be firm and say no.
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    over 3 years ago
    "I don't want to go out with you," or, "I don't want to date you."
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