maureezy
replied about 1 year ago:
When you meet someone and hit it off, it's supposed to be easy (for the most part). There's a connection that's established and developed and, if no games are played, a steady flow should ensue. I've always been an aggressor (sp?) myself because I don't think I should wait on anyone's feelings/time but my own. If I'm interested, I go after what I want and hope for a positive outcome. However, there's an ebb & flow one must anticipate when dating/pursuing someone. It can't be just you doing the pursuing. You have to get some kind of gain, some kind of return. I know impulse gets the best of us when we just need to know or we just need to express ourselves. But what I've learned recently is that it is essential to choose your battles. If a thought or feeling consumes you, just let it for a few days. Write about it, maybe, or talk to someone about it. But you must wait until you have completely calmed down before you address it or bring it up to the person that you have the problem with. Ask yourself, if this does/doesn't work out, will I remember this particular detail/circumstance? If not, cry about it, SCREAM if you have to, but let it go. Bottom line (in my opinion): be proud of your aggression but choose your battles! Good luck! & btw, if he didn't have the balls to plainly tell you he's not interested, you dodged a bullet. You have a ***** you do not need another one!
