I DONT TRUST MY BEST FRIEND

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by WillowTree27

about 1 year ago

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OKAY SO I HAVE A REALLY GOOD FRIEND THAT I LOVE BUT I AM GETTING THIS FILLING SHE IS ATTRACTED TO MY FIANCEE.. I CATCH HER STARING AT HIM ALOT N WHEN ALL THREE OF US AROUND EACHOTHER I GET THIS UNEASY FILLING IS IT MY WOMENS INTUITION OR AM I BEING PARANOID.. I HAVE BEEN DONE WRONG BY A BEST FRIEND SHE SLEPT WITH MY NOW EX BUT MY BOYFRIEND AT THE TIME IS IT THE CAUSE FOR MY FEAR OR SHOULD I ADDRESS IT TO HER I HAVE EXPRESSED MY FILLINGS TO HIM, AND I DONT LIKE HOW SHE LIKE TO TALK ABOUT HER BOBBS OR OTHER AREAS IN FRONT OF HIM WHICH I FIND VERY UNCOMFORTABLE HOW SHOW I ADRESS THIS TO HER OR SHOULD I JUST KEEP AWAY.. I TRUST HIM JUST NOT HER HELP ME PLEASE

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DaiDai33 replied about 1 year ago:

Ok im in the same boat as you this girl has been my BF but she was always near me and my man and i didnt like it....it was bad till the fact that i fought her and her boyfriend broke up with her but she always near my boyfriend and she even comes to his house without me knowing but yes address it cuz u dont want it to be like i shoulda at the last min be a woman and be like look this is my man stop doing wat u do or i cant be near u and explain to him the best way u can and say i dont trust her around u cuz im ur woman and u as my man should respect my choice and be with me 100% trust me im still in this as we speak and its driving me crazy

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iwantcandy replied about 1 year ago:

It is not appropriate for her to be talking about sexual things in front of your bf! Come on I had a best friend exactly like this she was an attention seeker and would talk about her sex life etc in front of my bf and wear really skanky clothes and even dance around if she knew he could see her (she wouldnt bother if he wasnt in view!) lol and you should go with your gut instinct, you know her so deep down you'll know what shes capable of. Some girls just love the attention or the thrill of sleeping with a guy whos taken. Like it means they're better than you or something! It's twisted. Does she wear reaveling clothes around him? Is she competitive or jealous of you? Ask yourself these questions, maybe you are overly paranoid because of what has happened in the past but deep down you know her best so you'll know. If she is like that, end the friendship. That's what I did and my life and relationship has got soo much better. Life is too short to waste on people that are toxic to your happiness.... I hope whatever decision you make its the right one and your happier for it bcz lifes too short, All the best :)

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nevershoutwonka replied about 1 year ago:

You should talk to both of them seperately. It sounds like you are very insecure about the situation, if you feel uncomfortable with her talking about her boobs infront of him then you dont trust her. Talk to her and tell her how you feel, if you still feel like that afterwards then most likely she is just being a flirt. Ask him how he feels too, you probably would feel alot better if you hear him tell you "dont worry about her at all" you can not stay quiet about this if these two people matter.

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WillowTree27 replied about 1 year ago:

yes she does wear revaling clothing she come over unannounced she if can to my house one day when she thought i was at work n i got called off she know i had to work whats that,, i have nothing to worried about on my fieancees part he doesnt pay no mind to her and truthfully he dont like her but it just makes me uncomfortable when she acts the way she does around him,, i know im beautiful and smart n strong im not in no way jealous of her.. but i do think she is of me she is even getting married augst and her fieancee has been my friend for seventeen year or longer i wanna tell him but i dont because i mite just be paranoid but i do think i have to talk to her and if it dont change then i cant no longer be her friend thanks everyone

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iwantcandy replied about 1 year ago:

To nevershoutwonker - "if you feel uncomfortable with her talking about her boobs in front of him then you don't trust her" ... Because if you did trust her that wouldn't be uncomfortable? Uh hello that is inappropriate that is her best friends boyfriend! In what world does her bf need information about her best friend thats sexual in nature? Sorry but thats wrong! And maybe shes JUST flirting with him, no biggie right? Its totally normal to flirt with ur best friends man?? Uh no clearly her friend has no respect, I was in exactly the same situation my best friend was jealous of me and i didnt need to worry bout my bf but for me it was the principal... Friends do not act like that.. If im going to visit a friend and her man il dress casually and save the sexy clothes and girl talk for when its just the girls or my own bf.. its called respect i wouldv thought it was pretty obvious

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funkycowz12 replied about 1 year ago:

adress her and say something that get right to the point

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lovemeforme1234 replied about 1 year ago:

i would say well u can look but u cant tuch that is my boy

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bettyliem replied 10 months ago:

Why don't you find a hobby that makes you feel good about yourself while you just joke around?

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ModeratorErika replied 7 months ago:

What puzzle me about this whole situation is that you still consider this person your best friend. I looked up the meaning of best friend and it read, ' the one friend who is closet to YOU (not your man), and a person you know well and regard with affection and TRUST!!!' Seems like your best friend has done more than enough to break the trust factor.

I personally like to deal direct with the person that I feel that I am in conflict with. The moment that I feel uncomfortable I address it immediately. Your friend has a track record for being attracted to your love interests. You have to be hands down one of the sweetest things in the world - I see this playing out sooooo differently in my mind.

Friends are friends there for you no matter what...friends know their boundaries. You should feel totally at ease around your best friend, and if that is not the case that friend gets demoted to acquaintance PRONTO!

Action plan would be. Be direct with your friend, demand the sexual innuendo comes to a halt, and finally reevaluate your friendship. Hope this helps and good luck!

Erika

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