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Good morning Darasarangs,
I certaintly hope that you have not been miserable for 26 years. I would think since the boys are teens now you had an opportunity to not have any children during the first say 10 years. It is never a good idea to engage in a relationship outside your marriage. If you are happy with your other relationship I say that you be completely honest with your husband and tell him how you are feeling. It is never a good idea to stay in a relationship for the kids.
What could happen is that your children may start to resent you for being unfaithful to their dad and you don't want to go down that road. I am a divorcee and my kids still have a great relationship with their dad. My children are 15 and 11. My relationship with their dad had run it's course and we sat down and talked and decided that it was time for us to go our separate ways.
It is not healthy for you, your husband, your children and the other man involved to be tangled up in such a web. Please have an open and honest conversation with your husband. I hope this helps and good luck.
Thank you Dara, but we all have the strength to do things that we see as impossible. You do have the nerve. I know the feeling...they huge lump in your throat, the butterflies in your stomach, the panic and not to mention the sadness/guilt for children. When thoughts of being with someone else entered my mind I knew that I had to own up to the fact that my ex-husband and I were no longer in love, but coexisting for the sake of the children.
It was a relief for me to get it off my chest. Dara what is the alternative you get caught, your husband lashes out, huge blowout, and a lot of hurt feelings. You doing it yourself you have a bit of control of the situation at hand.
Think about it for a while and I am sure you will make the decision that makes sense to. Remember there are no wrong choices in life...just lessons learned. Take care.
before u give up on your marriage,have fought keep it.it could be a simple case of inexperience or laziness here.do u know that u have seduce ur husband,workon s exual part of yur marriage? marriage like dating.u cnt just opt out without trying.I think u shud go for some strip-tease,pole-dancing classes.
Another thing is,u might marry guy ure currently cheating on your husband with,only find that same thing will happen again.its called familiarity.u will get tired of each other's bodies,same with ur husband unless u d smething abt it!!!!
I agree with Godzoned: Have you thought about discussing it with perhaps a marriage counselor or something? Maybe the both of you can go together to sort the issue out or I do think you can go alone if he refuses. If the finances are like pinching too many pennies to go to such a person, you guys may have to discuss this issue out until y'all come to a conclusion. Men can be a strange gender (many think that about us, too. Ha!,) so you may have to research on how to approach him about this (that is just my opinion and style of approach, though.) I would suggest for divorce as a last resort, but it's your life and your choice.
Thank you so much for your suggestions and insights. You are all so incredible. We did attend couseling sessions. He was reluctant about it. When I broughgt up the topic and possibility of our separation she sarcastically said "oh you can leave any time you want to if you are that unhappy'.
Please respect your husband, your children, your friend, and most of all yourself. Do the right thing. It's already in your heart and you know what it is. Either let go of your husband so he is free to persue happiness, or let go of your friend so he can be free. Consider your children, family and friends and what the consequenses might be. Remember, Mother is another word for God in the eyes of small children.
I think u have †φ stop dating †ђξ other man for a while.focus totally on your marriage.find out what went wrong and why.†ђξ response ur husband gave when u discussed this issue with him shows he's hurt and bitter.when u find out d problems with ur marriage,u decide whether u want †φ try again or just give up.and who wud benefit from whatever decision u are making.
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