Is 'he' the one? when do u fall in luv?

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by Radha J

9 months ago

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This my first real relationship that lasted 4 months and ended. I'm in doubt whether his the one for me. His a wonderful, decent caring, sweet guy, but im just not in love.I do not know what's wrong with me. I have always been a shy, closed up person, I don't know if shoud give him a chance and maybe my feelings will grow or maybe just leave him cos his just not for me and move on.

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kellibaresall replied 9 months ago:

First of all people don't understand that when it's love, it's love. You don't have to force yourself to fall in it or question if you're there it's just one of those things that happens immediately; you don't want to be away from the person, you can't stop thinking about them and time flies because it's definitely the best moments of your life. I think a lot of people want to be in love so much that they grow to love somebody but are never truly "in love" and you are only robbing yourself of an amazing part of life you could be experiencing while you are settling for somebody who will never be "the one". Just be patient it will happen and you will know it right away.

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mhope replied 9 months ago:

You will know he is the one when you feel your best while with him. When you think of him a thousand times a day. When it absolutely hurts to be without him. My first two "loves" were not "the one".......it took kissing several "frogs" before I found Prince Charming. He will be your best friend....only a guy! Four months is more than enough time to discover whether or not he is the one. When you find him you will know! Good Luck, and Happy Hunting!

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stephz1 replied 9 months ago:

If you are asking the question, and clearly stating that you are not in love with him, then you already know the answer. We, as women, tend to seek validation but when it comes to love you really don't need validation. When you are in love you know it, and there is no question. I guess the best way I know how to describe it is when you are happy or sad, glad or mad, if that is the first person you can't wait to tell about it or be comforted by then that is love. Life is too short to SETTLE for like or admiration rather than love. Be happy, kiss some frogs, and find the right one. Don't waste your time or his though, be honest with him about your feelings and might want to just set him free instead of wasting his and your time.

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Radha J replied 9 months ago:

thanks to all of u :) really apreciate it

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ModeratorErika replied 8 months ago:

Dear dear Radha. There is no reason to be questioning how you feel. Sometimes things are just not meant to be. When you truly fall in love you mind, body, and heart will definitely let you know. You shouldn't have to learn to love something or someone. If he is not the one for you then staying with him would not only be unfair to you but to him as well. I think you have made a great decision. You will eventually find someone that fall madly in love with and he will too. If you two can remain friends that would be great, but don't ignore your inner self. Good luck to you in all you do.

~Erika

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NullNull replied 6 months ago:

"This my first real relationship that lasted 4 months and ended."

No. 4 months isn't a "real relationship". When you love someone, you would gladly die to save their life and I don't mean that in the "fantasy" way. I mean it LITERALLY! If someone was going to shoot my wife, I'd dang straight take that bullet before I let it hit her. Wouldn't hesitate for a second.

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