Living together with no marriage

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by tdap123

over 1 year ago

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I have been dating my man for at least ten years, while he was living with another women with two children in his house. Finally she moved out and I moved in with my daughter. She has a baby 1 year old. Sometimes he doesnt come home and goes away on weekend. He has lots of money and I am from poor Brasil. I hate him on the inside of my heart, but love to live like this in the states. What should I do? He says he loves me and my daughter and grandson Matthew. Anything please tell me. My daughter may be a american because she had her son in march in the states. He is a smoker and I am not, and he is 9 yrs older and I am not attracted to him. He smells of alcohol and smoke all the time. I hate him to be with me, and like to live in his house. I gave him time to say he marry me, but no ring. just a gold bracelet.

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Rosalindaa replied over 1 year ago:

It sounds like you're not happy, is that worth the money? You need to decide. Why do you want to marry him if you say you hate him?

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churps replied over 1 year ago:

dont waste your time for the wrong man. seems like this man has no plans with you.

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bettyliem replied over 1 year ago:

Are you trying to get a green card or something?

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Carolyna replied over 1 year ago:

Sounds like you are both using each other. YUou need to value yourself to be happy and have a QUALITY relationship. This one is a zero.

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Liberty Anne replied over 1 year ago:

Please don't mary him, you can find real love if you'll look a little! This man doesn't love you and you don't love him! No no no.

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Tamikka replied over 1 year ago:

Look he's no good but if u can b happy off his money n ur daughter n grandchild is safe. Use him I believe theres no loyalty out there im frustrated with men and women that breaks up happy homes. Just go with the flow dont worry bout marriage just keep puttn up money until ur financially secure. Get ur cake n eat it too!!!! Trust n love god only

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arm45ch replied over 1 year ago:

You have been with this guy for 10 yrs and you think he is going to marry you? He is just using you as his housekeeper/companion, and someone to come home and be a pretend family. You are both made for each other. Two users, a match made in heaven! Go back to your family in Brazil, they want to see your grandson grow up. Stay here and be miserable with Mr. Money, besides how many girls do you think he is with including you? Do you think your the only one since you live in the house now? Have you ever heard of STD? Run now before you ruin the rest of you life! Life is to short to waste it being unhappy.

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arm45ch replied over 1 year ago:

probably

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2 sided replied over 1 year ago:

Wow

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2 sided replied over 1 year ago:

Well you have said everything that's wrong with your situation so I say all you need to do is read this out loud to yourself and go from there. Ask yourself is this right? Leave before it's too late this was wrong from the beginning on so many levels. Think of your daughter and grandson take them home away from this situation.

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amber2 replied 10 months ago:

It sounds like you are looking for more then he wants to give you. If you were truly in love with him you would be content and not be looking for a handout. Move on, find someone who will love you and forget about the money. It seems people like that like to wave it around, and you are going for the bait. Money doesn't buy everything, and if he talks about it, he probably loves himself and his money more then you.

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