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about 3 years ago

I've been in a relationship for almost 2 yrs. I've known this guy for many yrs. The problem is that he talks to other women and looks into sex chat rooms etc. We've talked about it and he told me it has to do with the way his mom was with him. His cell phone drives me crazy!!!! If your not sure about the person your with then talk to other people to, and he's a high sex drive man. We do have some kind of connection he's even said that but, he's got a problem and does not know how to fix it. We both have had said to each other there are times we wonder if one of use would leave each other. I dont know what to do?
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    about 3 years ago
    You just have to decide if you want to put up with it. If he really cares about you and respects you he would put you first and at least try to stop
  • User_116288
    about 3 years ago
    Unfortunately, you cannot fix someone else's problem, they have to want to do it themselves. Speaking from experience, if the man you are with shows the signs of not being faithful to your relationship; chat rooms and a desire to see/touch/communicate with other women, unshared cell calls, show this. I think it is a matter of time before he is unfaithful in the full sense of the word. If you are willing to accept that and take the risk, stay! Otherwise, you have to think of making yourself happy, don't wait for him to make you happy!
  • User_166687
    about 3 years ago
    Maybe you should take some time apart from each other. Have some time for youself and do things that make you happy. I don't know how long of time to take apart from him, but you will just know. And maybe when faced with him again, you will have different feelings and maybe he will too.
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    about 3 years ago
    I have to agree with you in many ways. It's hard to just do the make myself happy thing after being with a man for 22 years, though I am learning. I notice Men love their independence. I have a man who has been spending a great deal of time with my new girl friend of less than a year. They say they are really good friends and they kid around but nothing like that will happen; but I believe that could develope into more. Since we have been friends, my honey is less of mine. I have been dealing with this problem since last September. He shows me love but alot less and gets mad that I complain about him being over at her apartment. When I called him last friday night he wouldn't answer his phone because he knew I would complain in front of friends. My girl friend said, she told him that was wrong too. She said she doesn't want a man in her life. She says I am important to her and gives me gifts. Is she feeling guilty or what? I feel in taking the risk because I have 22 years and she has months. Am I kidding myself here or should I move on to make myself happy ?
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    about 3 years ago
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    about 3 years ago
    Hey Strawberry 93--------LEAVE HIM-----HE ISN'T WORTH IT-----ENOUGH IS ENOUGH ALREADY----MOVE ON TO SOMEONE ELSE. What does he mean about the way his mom was with him? Did his mom sexually moleste him or had him watch her with other men or participate in it? Ask these questions. If it were me - I wouldn't stand for it- the chat room sex, the cellphone ringing off the hook and who knows what he does behind your back - is that why is cellphone rings so often from all the girls on the sex chat rooms or from other women instead. He won't pull that crap with me- because I would have had old boy in check along time ago. Leave him alone --with his sexual inhabitual habit.
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