Manipulating mother in law

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by trapped

about 1 year ago

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Omg, she is a passive aggressive, back stabbing petty person. She just happens to steal things from my home, plants, towels, kitchen gadgets but the worst thing she does is push my husbands buttons in order to get us to argue. She puts everything just right, playing on his insecurities. After 10 mints at her house my husbands face changes n we have this "thing" btwn us. She once got on a diet taking pills n called him saying she was sick. To get me to come to her. Help. She is toxic but my husband is pudding on her ands.

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skies1213 replied about 1 year ago:

Possibly talk to her about it, I am a bit young to get married so I have no idea what you are going through but talking things over in a calm, relaxed situation can help, or if that does not work then maybe get everyone to write down their point of view so that you can all see what is making each other unhappy! I hope this helps you and that things get better!

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Moke replied about 1 year ago:

Its very hard to deal with this kind of person. I can only sympathise with you, my m- i-l was difficult too. I hate to say it only got better after she passed away. I tried so hard to get along with her. She did & said things behind my hubbys back n he never believed she'd do anything wrong. But i thank her for her son everyday, i wish we could've gotten along better when she was alive.

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ktjoonbug replied about 1 year ago:

I think it's important for your husband to be on your side. Look up some articles on dealing with a MIL like this and show him or get him to go to counseling if he isn't. All of the experts say the same thing, you two are supposed to be united and he has to be the one to set the boundaries with her (not that you can't set them, just that you and him have to be on the same page, always). I am getting married in June and my future MIL is quite difficult too! What's really happening is that the MIL HERSELF is insecure and yes, this is definitely a passive-aggressive way of dealing with her jealousy of you for "taking away" her son. Just stay strong together and refuse to let her come between you two!

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beauty55 replied about 1 year ago:

Your husband is punk who can't or won't stand up to his own Mom. He has to grow up and you need to turn your back sometimes when his mom pulls that crap. Ignore her as much as you can- she will get the message somehow. Change the phone number and don't always be home for her to get anything from your house. Put your stuff in a shed or someplace that she will never expect. Your mother in law has her son like that so that he caters to her and nobody else. Doesn't she any other children she can pull that crap on - or is he the only SUCKER AT HER DISPOSAL. Your husband must have been a door mate for his mom all of his life. I would tell him to EITHER **** OR GET IT RIGHT OR THIS RELATIONSHIP IS OVER. Doesn't your marriage mean anything to you or do you prefer that mom steps in and take over. Whose life is it anyway? Good luck sista- I would go away for awhile until he can come to me like THE MAN I MARRIED WITHOUT YOUR MOM'S APRON STRINGS ATTACHED.

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