ShyShadow22 replied over 1 year ago:
Not an expert so this is pure opinion but i think this kind of situation is really controversial. I think that yes you shouldn't intervene unless asked by your wife but make sure you let her know your feelings on the subject before hand. Try to make sure she knows this effects you and that what happens is something you go through together. With my family we sit back for a while but if it gets out of control like with the way yours sounds to me i think taking action would be the best solution. At this point the only ones who will end up burned are you guys and it's NOT fair to your wife at all. But again this is all a matter of opinion and im not exactly one to hand out advice. but this is how i would handle the matter. Hope it helps in some way or another, sorry if it doesn't.