I met a man online a few months ago, and we have been dating since. There was instant chemistry between us, our first date lasted eight hours, I was attracted to him instantly. It had been four years since my divorce, and I was ready to try dating again. We seemed to click and started seeing each other twice a week. Since we live 50 miles from each other, we took turns making the drive to each other's city. Things moved quickly, and smoothly we have never had an argument, and have a lot in common. He told me that he had never been in love before, and that he was not married because he just never found the right person. His relationships all seemed short and unusual, with not much contact like phone calls and visits on a regular basis. He doesn't have a lot of friends, and keeps to himself. We became intimate and I think he started feeling something for me, as I did for him. He became very emotional at times when we discussed our so called relationship. At the beginning he referred to it as just a friendship, and claimed that he loved me like a sister. He would not admit that we were in an actual relationship, only friends. As we continued he made all kinds of excuses about why it would not work between us like I have too many kids(2 adults, and 2 teens), the distance between our houses, and that I have cats (he is allergic). He also mentioned that I am in a different time in my life than him since I am still raising kids, "you're still a mom". I replied that I will always be a mom. Now he admits that we are in an actual relationship, and refers to me as his "best friend". However, he decided that we should stop having sex because he "doesn't want to lead me on, and hurt me". I am very confused, and don't know what to do. We have been dating for six months, with no formal commitment. We have communicated to each other that we are both not seeing, or having sex with anyone else. He comes over once a week and helps me fix up my house, and even helps me with some kid related issues and advice. He is constantly asking how the kids are, and even got them Christmas presents. He is kind, very attentive, and a true gentleman, he is everything that I have been looking for. He calls me every night and claims that he has never done that for anyone else. During the day at work we email back and forth several times. I know that he feels something deep for me, but how do I handle this? Do I do nothing, and just wait on him to decide? I have been married twice before and have never been in a situation as this one, I am truly stumped! I don't know why he is doing all of this for me. Is he in love with me, and is just scared to commit? or does he just want to be my friend and nothing else? Please help with advise.
