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by ScEhXiYch

10 months ago

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My friend has always been boy krazy! Well, one night she had 2 boys over (her bf and his best friend) and they had sex (all 3 of them, anal and viginal) They were drunk so she didnt know what was going on! There were also many pictures of the 3 of them doing it! My friend was standing in one of the pictures and both boys had their penis' in her! It was sooo..... Anyway! When she woke up the next morning she was horrified! (this happened 2 days ago) she hasn't talk to both of them since. she is really upset and doesnt know what to do! How can I help her?

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Honey456 replied 10 months ago:

If this is someone you want to be associated with...that might say something about you. I know we all make mistakes but it is not your job to help her through misconduct or bad irrational behavior. Being seen with her might make those guys think your capable of this as well. Just choose your friends wisely. There's a saying "birds of a feather flock together" take it to thought.

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ModeratorB2121 replied 9 months ago:

Honey, so true...Unfortunately we all make mistakes, however we also have to deal with the ramifications and consequences..You can be there for her, but she has to admit she made a terrible mistake(sounds like she has), and then let it go..It will 'eat her alive'. It is ok to make mistakes ...Just learn from them. If she was not aware..was she under the influence of alcohol or drugs then? If that 's the case...don't drink etc., and invite 3 boys even one to your place. She needs to protect herself and be smart.

Here is how you can help her..If no condoms were used..she needs to go and be checked for HIV and others STD's..seriously.

Then you remind her when she is down how much worse the entire scenario could be..that she could have contracted HIV through her irresponsible behaviour-and she should be happy she is ok. That should help put things in perspective for her hopefully. Just be a friend, but at some point she will have to just 'let it go' ok? Keep in touch, all the best and keep us posted ok? Take care!

Dr. J

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ModeratorErika replied 9 months ago:

Erika

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ModeratorErika replied 9 months ago:

So sorry I totally deleted my response. I think you may need to sit down with you friend and let her know how much you care about her and you don't want her to get hurt. Social media, STDs, and her reputation is on the line. If she is unwilling to listen to your concerns maybe you should reevaluate the friendship. Good luck!

Erika

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ModeratorB2121 replied 9 months ago:

I agree Erika! :)

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tmr1031 replied 9 months ago:

It sounds like your friend has an alcohol problem! If it wasn't rape..which it doesnt' sound like it in the senerio you are describing..unfortunatelly there isn't much you can do besides maybe console her and tell her everyone makes mistakes and to learn from this experience so it doesn't happen again.

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NullNull replied 7 months ago:

This friend got a name?

Just kidding. If she was drunk and didn't know what was going on, then it wasn't consentual and it's rape. Also any video or pictures taken would be criminal evidence.

If your friend is OK enough with being tag teamed while drunk in both ends and not go to the police for rape, then I think I'd find some other friends.. that is, unless you're into that kinda stuff.

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huey23 replied 5 months ago:

The good

A lot of girls enjoythis type of behavior. 3 sums can be a lot of fun for parties involved. She needs to decide if she is into these things or not. I think she experimented and now is embarrassed.

The bad

Date rape drugs could have caused this - but I still think she started it because she wanted the experience.

@nNullNullI don't know that the drunk- not concensual is valid- Why is it that when that happens it is the guys fault? The guys could have been drunk and she took advantage of them just the same. She invited them over. If you are so drunk that you are not in control of what you do- why is it the guys fault- they may be just as drunk as you.

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