ModeratorErika replied 9 months ago:
Victoria99 I am saddened to hear about the state of your friends son. Sometimes dear as we think with our hearts - which is not a bad thing. He have given you all these heart wrenching scenarios and of course you are wondering what kind of person would you be to say no.
I do not for one moment think that his son is not sick, but I always believe that there are options. For example according to an article I read online, "If you pay social security, healthcare in Spain is free or low cost, (families and retirees are also included). Like many countries however, the health service in Spain has a waiting lists to see specialists and for non-urgent operations."
Another article I found states, "Spain enjoys a national healthcare system that provides health services to all Spanish residents. Since the system is based on universal healthcare, non-residents and tourists (and even people living in the country illegally) are never denied treatment. Sometimes non-resident patients are charged (either directly or via their national social security system) for treatment, although this is often not the case with basic services."
You can read the entire article - http://www.spanish-town-guides.com/Healthcare_Spain.htm
According to your question he is business owner - he may of have had the option to pay into the social security fund to secure health care for himself and his son. My condolences for the passing of his wife - but Victoria when we decide to have children (which it sounds like they did it the traditional way), we get married, by a home, and make sure the kids are covered. I don't believe you should sacrafice something you clearly enjoy (the boat) to pay for this surgery unless you feel it is the right thing to do.
I am of the opinion that is inappropriate for such a request to be discussed when you two have not actually met in person. You want to protect yourself against anything. Not saying that he is a bad person but someone the kind are preyed upon.
I hope this helps you make a decision that you could live with and have a great day.