editorNadia replied over 1 year ago:
This guy seems to be telling you straight up that he's not the marrying kind and with guys like that, you can't hold your breath because they will never change. Especially when you have kids, it's really important to be with someone who can be a stable presence in their lives, so if it's been four years and he's still not ready for that commitment, it might be time to say goodbye. You deserve someone who will be a totally equal partner, supporting you whenever you need him, not someone who crashes on your couch and feels you up when you're not in the mood. If he wants you, let him earn you! Losing a husband is really hard and we do get used to having someone there with us, but having someone who doesn't meet your needs and won't pull his weight can be worse than having no one at all. Rely on your friends and family to fill those gaps while you look for a true gentleman who can give you the care and commitment you deserve.