seeking relationship advice

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by mysterygreen22

over 1 year ago

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I have been with my man for 6 1/2yrs. the first 3yrs went well and then I got pregnant. The year I was pregnant everything changed. At first everything seemed good and then our boy was born. I ended up sleeping in a separate room from my spouse and he avoided me and our boy 97% of the time. He started acting like a dad about 9mnths after the boy was born, but I was nothing to him. 3yrs down the road and I don't feel like he is attracted to me. He picks fights with me, he doesn't do anything to help around the house, he even b*tch's me out when i make a move on him because i am in the mood. I feel that our relationship is flying out the window and no matter what I try it seems to make things worse. Can I say HELP! I love him , but he is also making me insane. We haven't even gone out for a date since our boy has been born. And that's not for the lack of trying on my part. I just feel like i am not important to him. Anyone have any suggestions on what I should do.

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briscoe replied over 1 year ago:

What i think is you need to leave him. You are the mother of his child and you love this man and have clearly given him your all! if he cannot treat you like a Queen as all women should be treated then you dont need to be with him. I understand you love him but your clearly not happy with him either so is it really worth it?? There is someone out there for everyone! Your true love will come be patient but dont stay with someone who doesnt feel the same about you it really isnt worth it at all.

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1stladyQu33n replied over 1 year ago:

hi mystreygreen22 my name is queen n im here to tell DONT I REPEAT D.O.N.T. leave ur family unless all options have been asserted because u are not keeping your son in mind u are only goin accordin 2 ur feelings so 1st in the beginin u say U started sleeping n a seperated room from him(1st mistake) as though he was sum alien now( dnt get me wrong) i no u may have meant it for good (mayb to keep from wakin him late @nite)caus us women try to make our men so comfortable sometimes we inconvience them so basically with that bein said u took all imatiency from him n on top of dat with what was suppose to be the happiest moment of his life (his son)got stripped away cause sometimes we give new baby so much love we forget to love who gave us that love so maybe try 1st havin a heart to heart 1 on 1 talk with him with no finger pointin no yellin jus da old yall and yes i said yall talkin puting everything on the table meaning do we want it to work? do we love eachother? what about the family we planned n talked about so start prayin together if possible but if not u do girl this is YOUR LIFE &YOUR FAMILY just ask God & i promise he will tell you but jus b ready to accept it keep me updated on the new blessing that God gone bring u n da fam smoochz..........

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bettyliem replied over 1 year ago:

Take care of yourself.

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kir427 replied about 1 year ago:

If you aren't happy, your children will not be happy. I grew up in a household where my parents hated each other. At one point, I even asked them if they would please divorce. It was miserable. Staying together for the sake of the children does not help the child. Seeing their parents in loving, healthy relationships is much more beneficial than the alternative. I'm sure, in your heart, you know the right thing to do. Just like Bettyliem said - you need to take care of yourself!! By doing that, you will certainly take care of your child.

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