ModeratorErika replied 9 months ago:
Just to set the tone of this reply. Men and women CANNOT be friends period! At some point one of the 2 parties involved with form a bond. Look my current boyfriend at one point was very 'friendly' with women in general and I sat down and told him how it made me feel. I did not do any finger pointing. I just plainly said, "Babe when you are overly friendly with these women I feel..... and I think I would feel more comfortable if maybe the relationship calmed down quite a bit...honey I love you, but this is a definite deal breaker for me." At that very moment I was ready to walk because I personally refuse to be in a relationship that is constantly testing my sanity. Needless to say things improved drastically cause I didn't come from a place of blaming him for what I was feeling. You have to know that there is someone out there, if not him, that will respect your relationship and tone down or even nix the relationship with their 'female friends.' If they are truly his friends they will understand that or at the very least get to know you, so that you are friends with the other couple as well. As for the single female - honey that is where I draw the line. If you are with this man and you two are in love - single female friends are a thing of the past. It like leaving the door open just in case you two don't work out. I am very territorial and I don't have a problem going there with anyone, cause at the end of the day it is way easier and cheaper for a woman to pull another man than it is for for a man to pull another woman. Know your worth honey. You deserve to be tr because I am quite sure you treat him like a king! Good luck sweetheart!