I met a man on am online dating site a few months ago. There was instant chemistry between us. We seemed to click and started seeing each other twice a week. Since we live 50 miles from each other, we took turns making the drive to each other's city. Things moved quickly and smoothly, we have a lot in common. He told me that he had never married because he just never found the right person. His relationships all seemed short and unusual, with not much contact like phone calls and visits on a regular basis. After we became intimate and I think he started feeling something for me, as I did for him. He became very emotional at times when we discussed our so called relationship. At the beginning he referred to it as just a friendship, and claimed that he loved me like a sister. He would not admit that we were in an actual relationship, only friends. As we continued he made all kinds of excuses about why it would not work between us like my kids, the distance between our houses, and that I have cats (he is allergic). He says I'm his "best friend". However, he decided that we should stop having sex because he "doesn't want to lead me on, and hurt me". He says he is in neutral right now. I am very confused, and don't know what to do, or how to act around him anymore. We have been dating for six months, with no formal commitment. We have communicated to each other that we are both not seeing, or having sex with anyone else. He comes over once a week and helps me fix up my house, and even helps me with some kid related issues and advice. He is constantly asking how the kids are, and even got them Christmas presents. He is kind, very attentive, and a true gentleman, he is everything that I have been looking for, and more. He calls me every night and claims that he has never done that for anyone else. During the day at work we email back and forth several times. I know that he feels something deep for me, but how do I handle this? I am truly stumped! I don't know why he is doing all of this for me. Is he in love with me, and is just scared to commit? or does he just want to be my friend and nothing else? Please help!
