Cycy23 replied about 1 year ago:
Practice makes perfect sweetheart, that's the only way around this. Start by breaking yourself in slowly--hang out with a brother/cousin/uncle and his male friends. By doing this you adjust yourself to male companionship in general and their way of communicating and thinking. Once you feel more comfortable conversating with males it may help your anxiety when approaching a strange male. Also, you have to take yourself out of the 'trial' chair---what I mean is, your anxiety is likely caused by your own doubts in yourself, whether you 'measure up' so to speak. You are afraid you will lose face or embarrass yourself when approaching a guy. An easy fix for this--only easy b/c if you figure out how to do it then it will work everytime--is to take yourself out of the 'trial' chair--quit analyzing how you might fail. Turn it around in your head, and think I need to see if this guy is someone I might be interested in. Not vice versa. Be yourself, even if this includes awkward silences and bad jokes---flaws are endearing to the right person!! So don't try to be what you think the guy wants to see or wants you to be, just be who you are and see if THEY are who YOU want them to be before you proceed to try to date. Hope that helps.
