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by luvbug

almost 2 years ago

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So I'he known this guy for a year and we have been on and off, he's in thrpe military and is curently stationed some were else. He has lied to me about having a kid and so many other things, he makes me cry all the time. I love him and he tells me loves me too and that he has a problem with lying, and will get help.I don't know what to do anymore. Its so hard to let go. Help!
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    editorNadia replied almost 2 years ago:
    In relationships that yo-yo back and forth between the good times and the bad times, we often keep waiting for that moment when he'll apologize and say he loves you, or keep trying stay optimistic that he's really a good guy, or means to be, no matter how much he makes you cry. The longer you stay, the more your emotions will be tied up with his and the harder it'll be to let go. But you need to let go. If you can't trust him and he often makes you cry, then he's not valuing you in that relationship--and you're not valuing yourself. You deserve to be with a guy who makes you happy. As painful as it might seem to leave him, you are strong enough to do it. When you stand up for what you deserve and treat yourself with respect and compassion, you free yourself up to find a healthy, loving relationship in the future.
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    rstahley replied over 1 year ago:
    I agree with editorNadia. It sounds like you are in love with the guy he could be and not the guy that he is. The truth is, although people can change, he probably won't. You need to end it, and by end it, I mean cut off all ties. Otherwise, due to your back and forth history, you will probably get back together, and that's not healthy. You need to realize that you deserve better.

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