loads of stress due to family and finances

by mommy of five

almost 2 years ago

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I'm a mommy of five great kids but many days I am overloaded with day to day activities. I try to cut back but then I feel things will never get done and I just created more work. I'm a stay at home mom as of last yr and stress out just making out normal bills. It has affected the way I handle my marriage and I can't seem to get time for just me. I am at a loss as to how to get help and I feel I'm disturbing people and family if I want me time. What can I do to lower stress and how can I live a happier life?

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  Art Markman, Ph.D. YouBeauty Psychology Advisor replied almost 2 years ago:

  The situation you are describing is quite common. The first thing to realize is that you're in good company. Surveys make clear that parents experience more stress, get less sleep, and are less satisfied with their relationships than people of the same age without kids. So, you're definitely not the only one going through this. There is an added stress of being a stay-at-home-mom, though. It can often feel like taking time for yourself is the least important thing to get done. If you were working, then you would know that you 'had' to get to work. But moms who stay at home often report that they put their own needs last on the list. It is important that you take time for yourself. Take a class at a community college, join a gym, go to yoga, go out for a daily walk, sit in a hot bath, go to a coffee shop and read a book. Whatever you choose to do, make sure that you take some time for yourself. You'll find that it helps make all of the other aspects of your life better.

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  bettyliem replied over 1 year ago:

  How about making some new friends? How about taking a class? Why not go on a hike, or something?

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  beauty55 replied about 1 year ago:

  Look girlfriend we all get stressed- it THE NUMBER 1 KILLER. If you have some friends that have kids - find out if 1 or 2 days out of a week that the kids can go over and spend a night - that would give you and the hubby some alone time to go out to dinner. Think about it- or find out is there a babysitting service available. Check them out throughly. Do you have sisters or brothers with kids? Where is the grandmother at? IT DOESN'T HURT TO ASK IN ADVANCE THEN YOU CAN GET HOWEVER MANY HOURS OF TIME ALONE. The ones that are in school - get them into a afterschool program- then know what time the program ends. Gives you the freedom to go to a gym, walk, shopping, or time to sleep in for a change. When the kids aren't around get the most important things done first- fix dinner early and store it in the fridge. On the weekends- find a neighbor who doesn't mind watching your kids- prepare dinners early so that you can have them ready without the stress. Make that your time and you won't feel so lost for some

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  tiff1987 replied 12 months ago:

  Im a stay at home navy wife and mother of one 2 yr old boy. Staying home with the kids isnt easy and with that decision comes a whole new list off feelings, and situations. My best advice to you is learn proper coping skills now so you can avoid the baby blues stage of adjustment. Keep active, dont stay inside your home all the time (itll honestly drive you nutz) and make good non toxic friends thatll help you out. make sure you keep toxic friends at a far distance. you can get your time just having coffee at a friends house while the kids play, and when daddy has a day offask him to help you. explain to him you need some you time and have him watch the kids for a few hours while you go and do whatever is is you like to do. The second biggest advice i can give is friends, friends, friends, your going to need them.

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