Paranoid all the time!

by Sexymom

almost 2 years ago

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I'm a mother of a soon to be5 yr. old daughter and I've been through alot in my life before she came along. Been through things that made me not trust hardly anyone, and have been a victim more than once in my life. As soon as I walk out my front door my anxiety starts and i get nervous about even walking in public. The one i trust the most is my soon to be husband in september and i trust him because he has been here for me through everything and i know i can talk to him about everything. My pressure the most is against Men in general. I feel I should never leave my house or allow my daughter to go anywhere. I know i shouldn't be like this with her because she has to hav a life of her own. How do I nock my walls down without feeling like i have to worry all the time.This has ruined my social life. I have a tendency to stay bottled up and not talk. I don't want to be like this for the rest of my life.I want to be a e to have fun and live life to the fullest without being paranoid.

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  editorNadia replied almost 2 years ago:

  It sounds like you've been through some tough times and are still feeling the effects. Knocking down those walls can take time, but it sounds like you have a wonderful family to help you through it. Overcoming some of those fears in a safe and supportive environment is key. Behavioral therapy is the most effective way to work through the anxiety you've been feeling. A behavioral therapist can help you see real change in a short amount of time (usually a matter of weeks) by teaching techniques to calm the anxiety and slowly re-introducing the situations that make you uncomfortable. You can find one in your area through the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, which offers a clinical directory. You're a strong woman who's gotten through so much already, so you'll tackle this too. Plus, you deserve to live your life to the fullest!

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  kbxo replied almost 2 years ago:

  My paranoia was out of control these past months as well, post-divorce. I drove almost everyone out of my life in an effort to heal and learn to feel again after shutting down due to the trauma of my life. Grief, losses, diappointments, traumas are all cumulative and will well up in the mind, body and spirit until they are bursting for closure and for a cleanse. For me, 4 years of talk therapy helped a bit, but it wasn't until I got out of my head and into my body with yoga, singing lessons, meditation, breathing, and sometimes literally screaming to myself to "Stop" "Everything is Fine", "Fear Isn't Real", "You Are Healthy". I imagine you are a deeply loving and feeling person and that's a blessing once you realize how it can protect and serve you and your daughter. However, when that gift of feeling deeply is out of control, anxiety and isolation take over. More than anything, don't fret. Sounds like you are cleaning emotional, social and mental house so be gentle with yourself. It's not easy inner work.

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  kaitlin07 replied almost 2 years ago:

  Not everybody is against you. There are a lot of good people in the world,but the bad ones can be who we remember most unfortunately. Put the past behind you, and move on. You'll feel much better.

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  Senoritadurazno replied 7 months ago:

  Hi my name is Kim and I understand you completely. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get counseling. This has helped me tremendously! They will work with you to develop short term goals so that you can be gently weaned back into society with minimal stress. They will teach you coping mechanisms and teach you to rewire your thinking. Trust me its the smartest thing you can do!:)

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