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dull sex life

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about 3 years ago

me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now i hardly ever have sex anymore it used to be at least three times a day! now its once a week if were lucky and whenever we do have sex its boring recently ive been finding it hard to orgasm what should i do i love him and want to be with him but is it normal what we're going through?
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    about 3 years ago
    RUN! I had the same problem when my fiance and I were together for about a year or so. Now it has been 10 years and it's even worse. Nothing is worse than a man with low sex drive. And if thats not the problem, than why be with someone who just isn't interested enough to attack you at least once a week. I know sex isn't the most important part of a relationship but it is important and lack of sex does more than just keep you dis-satisfied. It will eat at you and damage your self esteem if you let it get to you. Talk to him and see if it is just a phase he is going through due to stress or something like that. If it's not then my only advice would be to RUN! It may seem like a tough decision as I assume you care for him a great deal, but trust me, you will thank me in the long run! Good Luck!
  • User_8
    about 3 years ago
    Couples often go through ups and downs in their sex life--that's totally normal. The key is how you handle it. Have you told him how you're feeling? Have you asked him how he feels about your sex life? These are really sensitive topics to bring up, so focus on your own feelings and what you do want (rather than what you don't want). You might say, "I've been feeling like our sex life is not as active as it used to be. I'd like to have sex with you more often and I'm wondering how we keep that spark going." (In your own language, of course, but that's the general idea--guys rarely react badly to being told that you want to have MORE sex with them.) Excitement fades easily in a relationship, but the best way to keep it going is through trying new things together. Start having a date night where you do something new every time, or get more creative in bed--try new positions, have sex in a different room, try using a sex toy, just spice it up a little. The more you foster that kind of novelty in your relationship, the more you'll be able to keep your sex life exciting.
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    about 3 years ago
    Amen. I am in this exact type of relationship. I think it's even worse for the woman, b/c men are "always supposed to want to have sex." When they don't, women take it personally and automatically blame themselves. Hell, i'd take once a week any day. It's been MONTHS.
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    almost 3 years ago
    try some dp :P
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    Ariel Jordan
    over 2 years ago

    Anyone who has been in a relationship for a significant amount of time (think 6 months +) knows that after a while, it's time to start exploring ways to spice things up in the bedroom. It's only so long before you're online Googling different positions, looking for new, sexy outfits, and reading about ways to keep sex exciting. 

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    over 2 years ago

    You gotta practice flickin' yo bean.  That's where its at.

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