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Help my friends wife has lost her sex drive...

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about 3 years ago

my friend just celebrated his three year anniversary with his wife. She's lost it the spark the flare whatever you want to call it . I've given him advice and he himself has tried everything. We've run out of ideas. He's not consumed by sex at all he just wants that intimacy back with her. He wants to feel that way with her again! Help me help him. He's a great guy who's at the end of his rope. Please help me to help him!
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    about 3 years ago
    Has he tried talking to her directly to see what's wrong?
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    about 3 years ago
    Does he stay appealing to her? does she have someone else? Does she feel well?Marriage Counseling/
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    about 3 years ago
    Is she depressed? Is it hormone related? There are a lot of reasons both men and women lose their sex drive. Intimacy is a better place to start than sex. Are they able to have an open line of communication about it?
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    about 3 years ago
    If he feels like the emotional intimacy has faded from the relationship, then this may be about a lot more than sex. Has he told her how he's feeling? Is she willing to tell him how she's feeling? If his efforts to talk with her about this aren't working and he feels like it's hurting their relationship, then they might want to consider seeing a couples therapist. Gottman-style couples therapy focuses on improving communication between couples and reminding them of the reasons they fell in love in the first place, which can help restore that spark. The best thing you can do as a friend right now is probably just to support him and listen to how he's feeling.
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    almost 3 years ago
    Tell him to stop trying to have sex with her. And focus on physical intimacy thats not sexual like touch her everywhere BUT the obvious places. Be romantic and tell her everyday how beautiful she is, notice everything she does... dinner was so great tonight, wow the house is really clean thanks for everything you do I'm so lucky etc help her out around the house or at LEAST just ask if she wants a hand with anything. If he does all of that and still doesnt get laid.. shes either seriously unhappy in the relationship, she only married him for money or shes having an affair. Thank you and goodnight
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    over 2 years ago

    The problem is probably medical and related to hormone imbalances

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