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We have known each other since high school, but never dated. We are friends now still, and go out from time to time, now we are 60, and it went to a sexual level, after all the bragging he did, he only masterbated
because it wouldn't get hard, in fact he acted like he didn't even expect it to, he wanted to masterbate all along, now he is acting real different towards me avoiding me, and discussions anbout sex,.
DONT PRESSURE HIM TO DO ANYTHING, JUST GO WITH THE FLOW OF THINGS. SOMETIMES MAN HAS OTHER WORRIES IN THEIR MINDS WHICH PREVENTS THEM FROM GETTING AN ERECTION. YOU SHOULD TALK TO HIM, AND TRY TO FIND OUT IF HE IS WORRIED ABOUT ANYTHING. ALSO DO SOME EXERCISE TOGETHER TO MAKE HIS BLOOD FLOW BETTER AND AT THE SAME TIME ENJOY EACHOTHER, DONT MAKE A BIG DEAL ABOUT IT. THINGS HAPPEN SOMETIMES AND YOU KNOW HIM ALREADY FOR A WHILE. ALL WILL BE GREAT JUST GIVE SOME TIME TO TIME. BEST OF LUCK
I'm 56 and am in good shape. I have been dating since my husband died and I can tell you that most men our age are impotent. If it hasn't happened on it's own then it is being caused by blood pressure and heart medications. Unless he can get off the drugs you are out of luck because even viagra won't help.
That is true that certain medication can exarcerbate preexisting conditions etc., however, because of the stigma attached to this, we don't (as a society) talk about this much...for men esp. yes ego is a huge thing, so it would takes a very caring partner to be able to understand and realize there could be chemical/hormonal/physical factors at play , and be willing to do something about it and seek some help together as a couple, instead of making the other person even more conscious. You would be surprised how many men and women have little to no sex drive or other sexual dysfuntion..It is one of many topics people shy away from..G-D forbid!
Most men at 56 are not impotent at all. I have heard and know of much younger guys having dysfunctions like that...as well...no that there is anything wrong with this. There should be no shame attached to this or stigma..just like mental health..Go see a good doctor with expertise in the field(endocrinologist, and others) and they'll be good to go (:-
We need to start talking more about these things...How else will we get help? Many much younger men can also and are impotent(i don't like that word), have some type of sexual dysfunction-ranging from very low testosterone levels, which will mean they will have a very low sex drive...and if they get no help or ignore this, they will probably not be able to get a woman pregnant (mind you all it takes is one) (:-
However, the more the better the chances are...It is interesting too, that a man with a sexual dysfunction and our society will end up blaming the wife if they are having difficulties getting pregnant..almost automatically....and this is why men especially won't talk about it. It is analagous to a man being sexually molested or beat up by his wife/partner...There should be no shame in this, however we have been socialized to believe these things should only happen to women...sad eh?
Bottomline? age has very little if at all to do with this...It appears that way, but frankly it's a streotypical way of thinking...We cannot have a 'one size fits all' ..a Younger guy who smokes, drinks, is overweight, eats all the worng food, is depressed, etc., is definitely not in better shape sexually and otherwise than perhaps Hugh Hefner! Viagra is sold in huge proportions...and trust me many young men will go now where without that little pill. Just some food for thought....I am glad we are starting a dialogue on this actually...(:- Great post guys!
These things can happen...It's like a writer's block almost...so don't read too much into it ok? be calm gentle, understanding, and maybe he is now avoiding you as he senses your dissapointment or he is embarassed, so just pretend and talk about something else, make him feel very comfortable the next time you see him or speak with him. It could be a plethora of things why this happened. You said you were 'friends', could it be where he just did not want to mentally take it to the next level so 'got cold' feet?
Well maybe/maybe not...He was definitely aroused , and I am not an endocrinologist , however, it is very possible that as labgirl said(mind you regardless of age), your friend was nervous, he would have a not so 'smooth' experience, and was afraid you would be dissapointed, so decided to do something, ...anything as he was in fact aroused, just did not want to dissapoint..which he obviously did? I would say, give him another chance, and don't have any expectations or anticipation. He will sense this, and that's a lot of pressure that usually and often leads to what you experienced, and trust me it has nothing to do with age...If a guy (who hs no sexual dysfunction) is nervous, feels pressured, drank too much, is not well, has been taking cold meds etc., these and a host of other factors could lead to this...so don't judge him ok.
Just relax, and he will too...no expectations and then perhaps before you know..when you are least expecting .....(:- Take care!
Hey, Wild~!~~~~, Whew..........UHM, UHM, UHM..........Whew.............
This is Just the WORST!!! I do not know too many details? Was he self-masturbating? Nothing for you? That's a little to personal, MY experience , not much, has been, 1x the guy was on drugs, i did NOT know. Cocaine,UGGG~!!! He kept wanting and wanting-----HIMSELF!!! Second time the manhad justlost his wife, 4 months earlier. The attraction was SO strong, I was SO understanding, yet SO frustrated....VIAGRA!!! WHOA.....He did not tell me about the Viraga, SO you can imagine....I WAS AT THE CIRCUS!~!!! Then I saw the bottle eventually! We talked about the problem in the beginning; however, he chose to handle it himself and SURPRISE me!!~!!!
I think a GOOD friendship is better than any sexual experience ; where a partner has a problem, in your case.; anyway. Testing, huh? ............
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