In my teens up unto my mid 30s I had a very high sex drive,no @41 I really have No sex drive.Is this normal?

by vanessahubbard

10 months ago

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I have went from having sex 1-4 times a day and desiring more to not having sex much @ all(1-3times/month)  and now don't desire sex and find all forms irratating.This is causing my husband to get fussy...as he trys hard to please me.

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  btherese replied 10 months ago:

  I feel for ya, meee tooo...!!! I am led to believe it's a drop in hormones, and that combined with life just being more rushed and stressed, (we have 6 kids of all ages), I don't feel like it, not interested hardly at all. Now, once we get going at it, I may feel amorous for the next couple of days, but then I'm tired of all of it and don't want to deal with it again for some time. So maybe there's a female physician on here who would know more and could give us some advice? I am doing a trial of a product to help perimenopause right now, and after I am done, with permission, I might come back and tell everyone about it if it works. I pray it does, I need a miracle too!!

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  vanessahubbard replied 10 months ago:

  thanks for your reply,but my problem "isn't to tired"...I think it might be depression and the fact that we have both gained weight...wish Dr.s did read this I'd like to know if depresion causes low sex drive.

   

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  jodig replied 10 months ago:

  I think your best bet would be to see your doctor and have your hormone levels checked.  I use the Vivel Dot.  It's an estrogen patch you apply to your abdomen twice a week.  I love it.  Estrogen helps your skin too...bonus!  Also, I've found the best anti-depressant is exercise!  Find something you love to do.  You don't have to go to the gym if you don't like doing that, but find some sort of activity that increases your heart rate for at least 30 minutes.  You'll be surprised at how much better you'll feel.  I hope this was helpful! 

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  thehealthyvixen replied 9 months ago:

  Are you on any form of hormonal birth control?  After 5 years of being on birth control, I suddenly lost my sex drive.  After 10 months of feeling no desire, I went off the pill and my sex drive returned within a week.

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  Art Markman, Ph.D. YouBeauty Psychology Advisor replied 9 months ago:

  It is definitely worth discussing a significant change in sex drive with a physician, there is a lot that could be going on here. 

  Depression can be a factor.  One of the symptoms of depression is a reduced sex drive.  If you are concerned that depression could be a problem, then definitely talk about that with your doctor.  Even if you are not depressed by clinical measures, it may help to talk with a therapist.  You point out that your change in interest in sex has affected your husband as well.  A good marital and family therapist can give you some strategies for helping the two of you. 

  You also mentioned weight gain.  It is possible for sex drive to be affected by your weight as well in a number of ways.  Regular exercise and a healthy diet may also help.

  In addition, related to the point made by "thehealthyvixen," there is some evidence that hormonal birth control methods can influence sex drive.  If you are using hormonal birth control, then you might consider experimenting with your birth control method to see if that helps.

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  butterfly71 replied 9 months ago:

  thank u all so much...

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  outdoor replied 8 months ago:

  There are so many reasons why your sex drive may have decreased, but I'm putting my money on the simple principle "use it or lose it".

  The more you have sex the more you want it...the same is true for the reverse...

  If you don't like what you see naked anymore this is bound to be affecting things too.....

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  Vibrant Life replied 6 months ago:

  There may be other reasons for changes in your desire.  It's normal.

  Read the book below before you or he rushes off to the doctor's office for tests.

  If you do not know what to do, get straight answers. If he does not know, then he needs straight answers.
  
  Check out the title Men Need More: More Sex, More Respect, More Gratitude, and More Love.

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