editorNadia replied over 1 year ago:
Most people are a little self-conscious at the beginning of a sexual relationship (especially when you've been friends for so long) and the best thing you can do is to just be gentle and understanding with each other. To get over your self-consciousness, try being totally up front about it. Share your fears with him, and encourage him to share his with you. That'll help each of you understand what the other is feeling so you can help each other feel comfortable. If he's nervous about not knowing what you like, guide him and tell him what you like. If he's nervous about showing his body, show him that you appreciate it and let him start with the lights out if that makes him more comfortable. Once you know the specific concerns, it's easier to find solutions that will make you both feel more comfortable. Then just take baby steps. Try something you're only slightly uncomfortable with first, then work your way up to the ones you're much less comfortable with--your comfort level will naturally build over time.