My husband left me he said I was depressed and did'nt have a job. now that we're back together I cant seem to let go of what he did to me and sex is non exsitant.

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by djack43

9 months ago

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My husband left me six months after my son died. 3 weeks after his death he and his father told me I should get over it. When he left me I had no job he closed our account and left me with 5 dollars and a pack of cigarettes. I am so hurt we are back together but I find myself distant and bitter I do still love him but I dont know how to get pass all the hurt he and his family caused. we have been together for 13 yrs and married five

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Pooh65 replied 9 months ago:

First thing we need to do is get you a job. God don't like UGLY. For everything that you are going thru (and been thru) should give you enough incentive to move on and be rid of this heartless man and his family. Sorry to hear about your son, assuming he was not your husbands. We all are going to die from something, but we are here and you should live your life. Once he see you trying to better yourself, his attitude will change and I am hoping the change will be you leaving him, FOR GOOD. Good luck to you.

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djack43 replied 9 months ago:

Thank you .

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ThinkSkinny replied 8 months ago:

What he did was wrong. It's not pride it's dignity that does not allow you to be the same person. "I" wouldn't be able to be with him if I was you. He had to have hurt you too inmensely.... I would get a job and move on no matter what.

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mippygrandrapid replied 8 months ago:

I am so sorry for your loss of you & your spouses son. That is 'huge'. Have you ask your spouse for you & him to go to grief counseling? marriage counseling? or see a minister for care ministry help. For DH to abandon you during greiving, down right unaccetable in my book. What I learned as being a Christian, is both husband & wife should lean on God totally during this time. Forgivenss is a key on your part as if you hold a grude (although don't ignore what DH has done, acknowledge it big time) it will hurt your opportunity to regain your marriage. I truly believe marriages can be saved / salvaged, etc. but with lots of work, sometimes done with a couple (married spouses) helping you & DH sort out everything thats occurred. take it slowly. i will pray for you & your DH.

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mippygrandrapid replied 8 months ago:

I totally forgot about you mentioning your spouse's family. Forgiveness is a key, although do not forget. I've been through this problem with my spouse's family. horribleness. although i don't harp on it anymore. i keep my physical distance and emotional distance away from most of them. Some are good, others are very irregular people. Like I mentioned above, your spouse 'did return' that shows something. Get help, even for yourself. Depression after losing a loved one is very NORMAL. I was very depressed about 6 months AFTER my father passed away...it hit me like a ton of breaks,,,months later as a close friend of my spouses *and mine, an older man passed away unexpected, and a distant child passed from my inlaws church within like two weeks, after that i lost it. Coping with a loss of your child must be very difficult. Get counseling for yourself, even now, its never too late. Also...plz take note, i will pray for your current situation. Our hearts can be troubled, God can fix / repair / and make us even better people.

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djack43 replied 8 months ago:

make note he didnt come back we lost our house he quit his job of 10 yrs and i went to him because i had no other place to go. Thanks to every response .

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DagnyT replied 8 months ago:

Yikes! Please get out of this relationship. That is not love, on his part. You deserve something much better and all your love will not change/heal the damage inside him. Best wishes.....

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djack43 replied 8 months ago:

Thanks DangyT

I do want out its so hard when you have no money no job I feel like im going to lose my mind, I will keep trying He just got a check for the house we short sold and I was supposed to get half and of course I didnt I feel stuck but one day hopefully soon I will be able to leave.

Thanks Again

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natureschild replied 7 months ago:

Do you have friends or family that can help you? Possibly a church that can provide assistance to you? If your husband did not split the money on the house with you, what makes you think that he will take care of you in the future? Don't learn the hard way as I did after thirty years of marriage with no job and have all the assets you accumulated together taken away because you cannot afford an attorney. Search for avenues to get a job by friend referrals that are working. There is a reason things are happening at this moment to us. What doesn't break us only makes us stronger.

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chelers22 replied 7 months ago:

Im really sorry to hear that you lost your child. It is NEVER anyones fault for a death especailly not ment to happen! I can see that you are probably depressed, I would be, id give anything to have a child. But anyways thats not the point, the point is that hes a jerk. And this may sound wrong, but id look for a job and keep him on the side until you are able to get on your feet and know that it will be a permant job, then boot him to the curb. Hes done nothing but caused you pain, as well as his family. He doesnt deserve you, jobless, depressed or not. He doesnt deserve anything from you. He also doesnt understand the feeling to carry a child for 9 months then be the one who hears every little peep from your child. (I may not be a mother but i take care of 2 children and have for a very long time, i have thoes mother ears!) Men dont know what they have until they are gone on a womans terms! Be strong, and do what ever it is to get you back on your feet. and i would take sex from him to until you feel that you can trust him, and feel that sex is a necessity in your relationship. Make his life a living hell to a point, dont let him leave you stranded! and NEVER open a joint checking account! If you leave him dont even leave him with a cigarette butt! take it all!! Have everything written and signed with a witness! get him good girl! you deserve the best and he deserves the worst! :)

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Vibrant Life replied 6 months ago:

That is painful and it is called rejection. It seems realistic to be hurt. Anyone who has walked through grief, knows it takes time and comfort from our loved ones to get through it. If your husband did not stay strong for you, he needs to rebuild trust with you.

Answer one question. What does a woman really need from a man to keep the relationship alive?

If you do not know, you need to get straight answers. If he does not know, then he needs straight answers.

Check out the title Men Need More: More Sex, More Respect, More Gratitude, and More Love.

http://www.amazon.com/Men-Need-More-Gratitude-book/dp/B009TTOILU/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top

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