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sex first time or no?

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by TBandRB

over 2 years ago

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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and love him more than anything. He is the most trusting, dependable, amazing person I have ever met. We have seen each other at the best and worst times of our lives. When we first started dating we very rarely got to see each other alone, hints, the issue of wheteher or not to sleep together hadnt been that huge of a deal, we would have to wait a while anyways. Also we are both virgins nad have only seriously dated each other. But this past year we have had more than enough oppurtunity and have been thinking about it. Not to be lame, but I want it to be special. And after all this time waiting, it should be. We dont want to have to plan it out because that would take away some of the magic, and we dont want it to be random, because that seems to make it more of a physical act rather than a statement of our love together. So I am not sure what to do here. Plan it, be spontaneous, wait?
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    Rosalindaa replied over 2 years ago:
    You did not mention your ages, that might be a deciding factor. Also, don't necessarily believe that he is also a virgin just because he says he is. My ex husband claimed that he was a virgin as was I, and i found out years later that He had not been truthful with me.
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    fromfornia replied over 2 years ago:
    Follow your heart.
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    rebeccamartin replied over 2 years ago:
    i think you should talk to him and make it a nice night like a dinner and let it happen you know? it should be half and half. My boyfriend and I talked about it before not in to much detail thats the magic let your bodys do the work and guide you but do make it nice night. I think losing your virginity is a big deal and shoudlnt be taken lightly. You only get to do it once and i am happy you found the person that makes you happy enough that you want to share this with him.
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    Ville replied over 2 years ago:
    I know spontaneous seems magical but spontaneous can also lead to pregnancy. Always use some form of birth control. Anyways I think you should plan it. If you guys are in love spontaneous or not it will automatically be magical. If you're having seconds thoughts then by all means wait. Virginity is a special thing. Remember to use protection. -Ville
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    Liberty Anne replied over 2 years ago:
    I am saving my virginity for the man I marry. It is very very special to me and I won't dare give that to any man I'm not sure I'll be with forever. To me it's more that special, it's sacred. Do whatever you think is right. It's not lame that you want it to be special. Be careful.
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    Phoebster14 replied about 2 years ago:
    I say go for it. absolutely use protection but, really what are you waiting for? if your in love then it will be great.
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    alanew replied over 1 year ago:

    you will know when the time is right. just make sure you both are prepared for the first time condoms, birth control,  moist wipes for cleanup if not at home. i have educated many nieces and nephews on the technical aspect of sex and expicaly the first time for girls. If your hyman is intact remember there will be pain and bleeding its temporarily and will go away. DO NOT LET THIS TURN YOU OFF ON SEX all together. there are some great books out there 'the guide to getting it on' is one of them. its very informative for both boys and girls. good luck and have fun.

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