There’s a lot of terms when it comes to dating that you might not even be aware of. There’s ghosting, catfishing, benching… the list goes on. And while there are relationships, there are also situationships. If you’re unfamiliar with the term, a situationship is similar to a relationship, but without the label. Partners are just seeing where things are going and don’t feel the need to label it.
A situationship is kind of like a go with the flow, casual relationship- which works great if both people are aware of that. But when things get tricky is when one person wants more than the other. If you’re unsure if the relationship you’re in is a real relationship or a situationship, here are some telltale signs:
You haven’t met their family
Meeting your partner’s family is a definite indication that they want something more serious with you. If they keep avoiding introducing you to their family or don’t bring you around to family gatherings, they probably are looking for something more casual.
You don’t know many personal details
Being in a relationship with someone means sharing very personal, intimate details of your life. Being in a situationship with someone means just touching the surface. Be aware of how deep your partner gets with you about their own life.
You don’t really know their friends
Just like how it’s important to meet your partner’s family, it’s just as essential to meet their friends. Suppose your partner brings you around to his/her friends but doesn’t really give you a chance to get to know them. In that case, it’s a sign you’re in a situationship, not a relationship.
They do things without telling you
Typically in a relationship, you tell your partner most of the things you’re doing and don’t keep secrets. But in a situationship, that’s not so much the case. If you notice that your partner frequently ditches plans or just does a lot of things without telling you, it might be time to have a conversation about what you are.
You don’t talk about the future
You want to be in a relationship with someone you see a future with. But since a situationship is casual, talk of the future doesn’t really happen. Take note if your partner avoids talking about your future together.