There’s a lot of reasons why you might be struggling to find the time to have sex. Sex seems like it should just be a natural part of a relationship, but it can be hard to find the time when you’re dealing with everything else in life. Stress and anxiety are two common reasons you might not have sex, especially when you’re overwhelmed with things going on in your life. But sex is an integral part of a relationship and can even help relieve stress and strengthen intimacy. So if you’re feeling especially overwhelmed but still want to have sex, you can find the time:

Put down your phone
Although you might be tempted to check your phone every time it beeps, step away from the technology. Using your phone too much will only contribute more to your stress and take away from time you could be spending with your partner. Put down your phone and spend that time in bed with your partner.

Make having sex a priority
This one seems like a given, but many people forget how vital sex and intimacy are to a relationship. There are many other things to focus on in a relationship, but sex should be one of them! And having sex with your partner should go beyond just physical, the sex should help strengthen your relationship, too.

Talk about it
Communication is ALWAYS key. Talk to your partner about why you’re overwhelmed and what’s going on in your life. They will want to help! Being in a relationship is a two-way street, and being open and honest with your partner will help you in more ways than one.

Create a schedule
Create a schedule that works for both you and your partner to build in time to get intimate. You don’t have to write “sex” on your calendar or anything, but just create a rough estimate of when you want to have sex. On those days, neither of you can make any excuses. Make time for some romantic date nights, and hopefully, sex will follow.

Although masturbation is a one-person job, it can actually help a lot with your sex life. Masturbation can help relieve stress and anxiety and make you feel less overwhelmed. And the less overwhelmed you are, the more likely you are to want to have sex.