The power of the mind is amazing. As fast as it can help you attain victory, it can just as quickly bring you to doom. That’s why it’s important to keep your thoughts healthy, especially towards your relationships. Sometimes it isn’t the “actual” things happening that can destroy a relationship. It’s often times the sheer thoughts and ideas that we’re having that can ruin a good thing.

Tale a look at some ideas that can sabotage your relationship:

“I can’t compete with what you and your ex had.” For whatever reason, your significant other and their ex broke up, so you shouldn’t dwell on their past for them. This will make you feel jealous. Also, you won’t be the best you can be in the relationship because you’ll always be stacking yourself up against that person.

“You should make me happy.” It’s no one’s job to make you happy, but you. Don’t put that kind of pressure on another person.

“Happy couples never argue.” This couldn’t be further from the truth. Two human beings will always have a disagreement. It’s how you handle disagreements that counts.

“We’re too different.” It’s okay to be different from your partner. There are things they can teach you and you can teach them that you’d otherwise probably never be exposed to.

“I don’t know if I can trust you.” Constantly thinking that your partner can’t be trusted is a recipe for disaster and drama. There can be no relationship without trust.

“You should change.” Thinking that someone should change is a sure fire way to get frustrated. You can’t control other people, only yourself.

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