Women can be and do anything they want—which includes having babies and the Ph.D., if that’s what you want. New census data proves it: In the last decade, more and more highly educated women are having children. The trick, dear Jill of All Trades, is just making sure you manage your expectations and aren’t hard on yourself if you can’t reach your definition of “perfection.” Self-compassion is inner beauty at its finest, afterall.

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