Contrary to common wisdom, there aren’t big differences between men’s and women’s sexual fantasies. We all fantasize about intimacy with our partners, according to a study of more than 2,000 people conducted at the University of Granada in Spain.

Sex can serve as a nirvana moment between couples—a time of intimacy and contentment, even ecstasy. So it makes sense that no matter what gender, people fantasize about being with their mates. Sex can also improve our health, helping us live longer, decreasing our pain and boosting our happiness. So start fantasizing…and then get under those covers!

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