Marriage is a beautiful thing filled with ups, downs and in-betweens. One mistake a lot of couples make is thinking that those down times will never happen. This couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, every couple will disagree, and argue.
For example, every couple should discuss kids. Will you have kids or not? If so, how many? If you can’t have any, will you adopt or go through fertility treatments? How do you want to raise your kids? Do you believe the mom should be hands-on while the father provides? Do you want public school, private school, homeschool, etc.?
Believe it or not, not having this conversation can bring up a lot of trouble later when you run into things that you don’t agree on.
Other things you should discuss, include:
- How do you feel about in-laws? Does your family or your new spouse’s family get to be super involved? How much access do they have? Where do the boundaries stop?
- What about religion? Are you religious and the other person an atheist? How will that change when you have kids?
- What will sex look like as you age? Does one person want it more than the other and if so, how do you handle it?
- Who will do the dirty work? Make sure that the two of you have agreed on who will do what in the house. Who will do the dishes? Who will vacuum, etc.?