If you’ve been thinking a lot about the “one who got away”, it may be high time to reach out and see what they’re up to. After all, it can’t hurt and who knows what unfinished business the two of you can pick back up on. That’s what makes the internet so great. You can easily find this person with the click of button. Before actually reaching out to them you can see if they are in a relationship already with someone else. If not, and you’ve worked up the courage to make contact, here’s how you can break the ice:

Avoid and Agenda: When reaching out to someone you haven’t connected with in a while, don’t go in with an “agenda” to get them back. Start with baby steps by seeing what kind of friendship you two can kindle first.

Ask and Answer Questions: Once You’ve contacted them and the two of you are talking, start by asking questions to spark up the conversation. You don’t want it to seem like an interrogation, so be sure to give a little bit of your own story to help them get comfortable.

Embrace Them For Who They Are Now: Please don’t assume that they are still the same person you once knew. They could be in a completely different place. You can gently reference something from the past as long as it’s something kind and favorable. The best thing you can do is act as if you’re meeting them for the first time all over again.

Be Graceful: If they reject you, don’t take it personally. You never know what’s happening in their life right now.

Stay In The Present: It’s easy to start reminiscing on the old days, but that may not be a great idea. It may bring up negative emotions or thoughts about you. Instead, focus on the present and see where you can start building your current friendship.

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