Dealing with a breakup is just a part of life. We’ll all go through one at some point, but the real tricky part is getting back together with an ex. Maybe years have passed, and you see them again and are reminded of your feelings for them. Or maybe you broke up for the wrong reasons and just want to spark the flame again. Either way- rekindling a relationship with an ex isn’t easy. You broke up for a reason, and no matter how much time goes by, that reason will probably resurface at some point. It’s essential to play it safe when rekindling a relationship and make sure it’s what you really want, and here is how you can go about it:

Don’t jump right where you left off
Of course, you’re going to be tempted to pick up where you left off and act like your time apart never really happened. Don’t do that!!! You need to look at the relationship as a new stage, not a continuation of the old one. No matter how long your time apart, you both have grown as individuals, and things will not be the same. It’s crucial to realize that.

Take things slow
Although you might be super comfortable with this person, it’s essential to take things slow. Take your time to figure out the new relationship’s dynamic and get to know one another again. Rushing into things might scare away your partner. Or, if you rush into things, you might be quickly reminded why it didn’t work out in the first place. I can’t stress this enough: take things slow.

Communicate why you want to get back together
Getting into a relationship is a joint effort, and it will require a lot of talking. Why do you want to get back together with your ex? Why does your ex want to get back together with you? Before you start to get too serious again, address these questions!!! You have to ensure you are both on the same page about the relationship.

Talk about why things didn’t work out the first time
It might be a tough subject to address, but it’s absolutely necessary. If you just pretend like nothing happened, those issues are bound to resurface. And chances are, they’re going to be worse the second time around. Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about why things didn’t work out the first time to ensure they aren’t an issue the second time around.

Be ready to forgive and forget
Sometimes, we just have to swallow our pride and forgive someone. It depends on the issue, but to move forward and foster a new relationship, you might have to forgive and forget some of the problems in your old one. Clinging on to old issues is only going to hurt you in the long run. But, if you feel like the issue is still weighing on you and you can’t get passed it, you have to talk about it with your partner.

Be true to yourself
If you’re a few months into the new relationship and are suddenly having second thoughts, if it’s a good idea, that’s perfectly fine! Don’t force yourself to stay in the relationship just because it’s the second time around. It’s important to listen and stay true to yourself and do what makes you happy at the end of the day.