If you want to succeed at something or “stand out” from the rest in the world, it’s up to you to give it everything you have. That may mean pushing back against the naysayers. And almost always means becoming really obsessed with what you’re passionate about.
According to Ramit Sethi’s new book, ‘Your Move: The Underdog’s Guide To Building Your Business”, he points to 3 ways to separate yourself from the crowd and stand out. One of those ways is by becoming “obsessed” with your passions.
Successful people are the people who relentlessly go after what they want. They are the people who defy the odds and change the world. He shares as an example some of the most successful people like, Elon Musk (Tesla), Howard Schultz (Starbucks), and Steve Jobs (Apple) and how they had to become really obsessed with their ideas and passions in order to stand out. The world is different place now because of it.
Are you passionate about owning a business? Making a big discovery or breakthrough? Changing and influencing the lives of other people? Or maybe you have a more personal goal like improving your health, or getting into shape. Whatever your passion or goal is, you can have it.
Just don’t do what so many others do…settle. Don’t settle for a life that you don’t want because of fear or because of someone else’s watered down version of success.
If you ever want to achieve a goal, there will always be plenty of reasons why it won’t work, and reasons why it will. Just think…if you want to climb a mountain, there are plenty of reasons someone can give you on why it won’t work and more than likely that list will outnumber the reasons why it would.
But, if it’s your passion, you should go for it. Your life is a gift and it’s up to you how you live it. Remember the words of Earl Nightingale, “A successful person is a person who is doing exactly what he (or she) wants to do and does it well.”
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Maggie spent her younger years in the 2000s trying to destroy her natural curls because she wanted to fit into pop culture that dictated thin, pin-straight hair. Her arsenal included a relaxed curl perm, bleach, and straightening her hair five to six days a week without quality heat protectant. The “before” picture she posted on Reddit's r/CurlyHair subreddit shows she did a really good job with her scorch and destroy mission.
But the “after” transformation picture is the one that has captured attention from Reddit users. They gave a resounding thumbs up to Maggie’s current beautiful, healthy tendrils with more than 20,000 likes and 792 comments. Applause from more than 20,000 fans landed her on the Reddit front page.
The acknowledgement is well deserved. Known as Reddit user Capslockramen, Maggie says she worked 10 years to find the routine that would transform the frizzled bottle blonde version of her hair to today’s gorgeously enviable curls.
First, she called a halt to the deliberate damage. When she started college, she let her bleach blonde and relaxed perm hair grow out. She cut off the dead, dry ends every three months and she stopped her frequent use of hot irons. She limited soft curling and any straightening to every few months.
And, she did her homework by researching the best products for curly hair and experimenting to find the best for her.
Here are the tips for beautiful, curly hair that have won Maggie a fan base many politicians would envy:
After she showers, Maggie squeezes water from her curls. She then flips her head upside down and runs Cantu's leave-in conditioner through her hair. Next, she scrunches in Miss Jessie's Multi-Cultural Curls cream and then uses a cotton T-shirt to scrunch again and remove more water.
She wraps her head in the T-shirt and lets her hair sit for 10 minutes. Using a diffuser, Maggie then blows her curls dry and follows up by scrunching again the handy T-shirt. After the hair is dried and scrunched, she sprays on a medium-hold hairspray, parts her hair and sprays her part.
If you have the thick hair that comes along with most curls, you know this is going to take a while. Give yourself a break and rest a while when your arms get tired.
Maggie says she didn’t pioneer these techniques, and notes women of color have been using them for decades. She credits her college roommates, who are black women, with guiding her transformation. She adds that she hopes her post will help people win hair acceptance in school and in the workplace.
Read more: Maggie also posted her helpful game plan for healthy curls. Read her 38-curl type routine here. And for more on her post, read here.
If you've been thinking a lot about the "one who got away", it may be high time to reach out and see what they're up to. After all, it can't hurt and who knows what unfinished business the two of you can pick back up on. That's what makes the internet so great. You can easily find this person with the click of button. Before actually reaching out to them you can see if they are in a relationship already with someone else. If not, and you've worked up the courage to make contact, here's how you can break the ice:
Avoid and Agenda: When reaching out to someone you haven't connected with in a while, don't go in with an "agenda" to get them back. Start with baby steps by seeing what kind of friendship you two can kindle first.
Ask and Answer Questions: Once You've contacted them and the two of you are talking, start by asking questions to spark up the conversation. You don't want it to seem like an interrogation, so be sure to give a little bit of your own story to help them get comfortable.
Embrace Them For Who They Are Now: Please don't assume that they are still the same person you once knew. They could be in a completely different place. You can gently reference something from the past as long as it's something kind and favorable. The best thing you can do is act as if you're meeting them for the first time all over again.
Be Graceful: If they reject you, don't take it personally. You never know what's happening in their life right now.
Stay In The Present: It's easy to start reminiscing on the old days, but that may not be a great idea. It may bring up negative emotions or thoughts about you. Instead, focus on the present and see where you can start building your current friendship.
READ MORE: How To Contact an Old Flame: Mindfully
Twitter fans are weighing in on the timing of Taylor Swift’s return to music streaming services, and their judgment is that her move is pretty shady. Clever tweets and memes conclude the world’s highest paid musician is throwing some at Katy Perry and overshadowing the release of her frenemy’s new “Witness” album.
Swift once said, "My team and I don't work our butts off for our music to be free." But, hey, that was then.
Thursday was the day Perry’s album landed online. Same day came the announcement from Swift’s management team: "In celebration of “1989” selling over 10 million albums worldwide …, Taylor wants to thank her fans by making her entire back catalog available to all streaming services tonight at midnight," Team TSwift said via the @taylornation Instagram account.
Coincidence? Twitter doesn’t think so. When it comes to the Perry feud that prompted Swift to pen her hit song “Bad Blood,” fans see no evidence that Taylor is ready to “Shake it Off.”
Posted one fan: “Katy Perry spent 4 years on her new album but got OVERSHADOWED BY ALL OF TAYLOR SWIFT'S OLD MUSIC BEING RE-RELEASED.”
Tweeted another: “Katy Perry: Here's my new album, stream it on Spotify. Taylor Swift: Here's my ENTIRE album catalog on Spotify.”
And another: "Taylor Swift releasing her full back catalog on Spotify the same day Katy Perry drops her new album is the level of petty I aspire to be."
Swift’s snub of music streaming services dates back to 2014. Just as she was announcing her “1989” tour, she also parted company with Spotify. She followed up in 2015 blasting Apple’s declaration that Apple Music would not pay artists, writers or producers during the three-month free trial period.
"Three months is a long time to go unpaid, and it is unfair to ask anyone to work for nothing," Swift said in an open letter to Apple. “I say this with love, reverence, and admiration for everything else Apple has done."
Then she threatened to withhold her "1989" album from the service. Apple rushed to contact Swift that day and later posted on Twitter that the company had abandoned plans to withhold artist royalties.
Back to the latest demonstration of the Swift clout. This won’t be the last Tweet we see about Katy Perry: “Taylor Swift putting all her music back on Spotify on Katy Perry release day? SHAAAAAADE.”
How’s this for the celebrity we need in these times? She’s funny and glamorous. She’s a very big deal at home, but home was a little pond, and so she left to do some good in the world. “She wants to function freely in the world, to help out when needed, and to be respected for her abilities.” Her sacred duty is to bring peace to the world, and she encounters a lot of resistance. “She's ready to fight, but she's even more focused on vanquishing evil for the sake of peace.”
Oh, and, by the way, she deflects bullets and mortar shells, tosses an armored truck, demolishes a church steeple and kicks ass all over Belgium in World War I.
“Wonder Woman” opens this weekend across the country, and reviewers are definitely relieved that she is changing the game when it comes to superhero movies.
Diana Prince, AKA Princess Diana of Themyscira and daughter of Amazon Queen Hippolyta, is supremely capable yet utterly innocent, a true fish out of water. She’s “erudite but unworldly, witty but never ironic, supremely self-confident and utterly mystified by the modern world. Its capacity for cruelty is a perpetual shock to her,” says A.O. Scott of The New York Times. He applauds the movie’s creators for delivering a plausible modern character “out of comic book and movie sources that may have seemed problematic to modern sensibilities.”
Other reviewers say that “Wonder Woman” is reversing the darker traits that have come to personify her male colleagues in recent superhero movies. “Unlike Superman, Batman, or any of her male DC fellows, Wonder Woman isn't broodingly conflicted about her role or responsibility in the universe; she's hyper-focused on helping humanity and defeating the warmongering Ares,” says Sandie Angulo Chen for Common Sense Media.
“Unlike most of her male counterparts, its heroine is not trying to exorcise inner demons or work out messiah issues,” notes Scott. He adds that this movie “resists the reflexive power-worship that drags so many superhero movies…into the mire of pseudo-Nietzschean adolescent posturing.”
Sounds like our kind of role model.
The celeb emerging IRL this weekend will be Gal Gadot, a relatively obscure Israeli actress and model who plays Wonder Woman. Chen says Gadot was born to play the role and proves that women can be fierce and loyal, as well as empathetic.
Introduced as Diana Prince in Batman v. Superman, Gadot “rises to the challenge of playing Diana as both ridiculously strong and sweetly naïve,” according to the Common Sense Media critic. Gadot “holds her own with exceptional poise and gusto, whether bantering with (co-star Chris) Pine or charging into a nest of German sniper fire,” says Christopher Orr, chief film critic at The Atlantic.
“But make no mistake: this is a star vehicle all the way,” says Scott. “Ms. Gadot…has a regal, effortlessly charismatic screen presence. She and Mr. Pine… give Wonder Woman a jolt of classic Hollywood fizz. Their banter, long before that kiss, is lively and sexy, and their oil and water temperaments emulsify nicely.”
Read more: Check out the full reviews on “Wonder Woman” from A.O. Scott, Sandie Angulo Chen and Christopher Orr.
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